tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post1170618419578296686..comments2024-03-26T15:29:51.944-04:00Comments on Just Be Real: NOT FEELING ITJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-15287629692920264272011-03-30T19:40:26.551-04:002011-03-30T19:40:26.551-04:00You are right to realize that your help comes from...You are right to realize that your help comes from God in this situation as in all situations. I'm an only child so I know a little bit about your feeling that you are alone in caring for your mom. It's a heavy burden. You are a special person to care for your mom when she's been so difficult with you. I pray for special blessings for you and that your mom will come to know the Lord.Peggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02766321902838500896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-4485121822186687332011-03-30T17:54:45.474-04:002011-03-30T17:54:45.474-04:00You are a good person JBR. I wonder if you do nice...You are a good person JBR. I wonder if you do nice things for yourself sometimes.You deserve it.Flanneryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18367538352164522498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-36409186203938888642011-03-30T14:13:41.239-04:002011-03-30T14:13:41.239-04:00Oh, I forgot to add, :s I have an aunt that is ver...Oh, I forgot to add, :s I have an aunt that is very controlling and panicky to the point of not wanting to leave her house or when we visit she cleans everything before, during and after you touch it. :P My husband and I have set boundaries and we stand firm on them....like we don't call before we come, we just drop by and only stay for 1 hr at the max! We help her by showing her we are sterilizing our hands with wipes and try not to touch anything. But before all of this we pray before we go in and then cover her and her house in the Blood of Jesus and rebuke any evil there. This helps big time but you really need to figure out the boundaries before hand and then just stick to them. <br /><br />Blessings,<br /><><child of Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11635805396738062444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-4606452380341362672011-03-30T14:09:32.770-04:002011-03-30T14:09:32.770-04:00JBR, I think you handled this just fine. I believe...JBR, I think you handled this just fine. I believe you are a very wise person and this wonderful wisdom is coming from God Himself. Looking after the elderly is straining and harder than looking after a child. <br />Find some good and reasonable boundaries and keep to them allowing your mum to know what they are and keep her to them as well. She needs you to be strong for her and this strength doesn't come by caving in to her every whim. Like a child, you need to set the boundaries and reprimand when they are crossed. This is easily done by exactly how you handled this situation. <br /><br />Praying for you always!<br /><><child of Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11635805396738062444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-89098149037523655062011-03-30T13:49:06.865-04:002011-03-30T13:49:06.865-04:00I feel for you JBR, it's sometimes difficult t...I feel for you JBR, it's sometimes difficult to discern between true need and emotional manipulation among family members. I realize that your mom is unaware that she does this since she has been like this her whole life. You are right about her needing Christ because no human can fill the void that can only be filled by Him though we certainly do try to fill it with other things. I will pray for patience and discernment for you and I will also pray for your mom. God bless you, my friend!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-89941035018473724522011-03-30T13:02:49.842-04:002011-03-30T13:02:49.842-04:00JBR I'm sorry for what you're being put th...JBR I'm sorry for what you're being put through. You seem from what I've read to be a strong willed individual. You're fighting tooth and nail for your own freedom apart from your controlling mother. You're doing the correct thing and have the right approach in making sure her cries for help are sincere. I can imagine the many false alarms you've lived with over the years. God Bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-76022751725643370592011-03-30T12:59:05.004-04:002011-03-30T12:59:05.004-04:00HANG IN THERE JBR! HAVING AND TAKING CARE OF THE ...HANG IN THERE JBR! HAVING AND TAKING CARE OF THE ELDERY IS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO DO. ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY ARE DEMANDING AND DON'T WANT TO GIVE UP THERE FREEDOM.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-45463453905116164872011-03-30T09:19:47.122-04:002011-03-30T09:19:47.122-04:00JBR: I suspect she has been like this all her lif...JBR: I suspect she has been like this all her life, and it is not just a sudden fearfulness?? With my Mom one sign of advanced age, and ravage of multiple TIA's (mini strokes) is that she is fearful of odd things like water on her face, or people writing things on PAPER. I certainly understand the feeling that you have no life of your own. You are a good daughter, but even if you were physically there with your Mom she would be having these fears anyway. Take care JBR. ((JBR))WinnyNinny PooPoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13237156887425609665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-22075685002638730352011-03-30T06:47:13.867-04:002011-03-30T06:47:13.867-04:00It can be exhausting to feel like a parent
toward ...It can be exhausting to feel like a parent<br />toward a parent.<br />-JenniferJennifer Richardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04305032927925322733noreply@blogger.com