tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post4571525918066618109..comments2024-03-26T15:29:51.944-04:00Comments on Just Be Real: EFFECTS SEXUAL ABUSE HAD ON MEJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-50943206025426919622014-01-11T09:28:33.515-05:002014-01-11T09:28:33.515-05:00What a powerful post. Share it as many times as po...What a powerful post. Share it as many times as possible with as many people as possible. This article ranks right up there with those professionals who are in the field of recovery. It goes boldly to the throne of the LORD just as we are commanded to do. Recovery for you, rests in the palm of your hands. By sharing you have created a path for your light to touch the masses. The light will travel back to you warming your soul. Supporting you with prayers.Audra Laurennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18128658869031756957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-23803694295107317812013-06-23T17:57:58.300-04:002013-06-23T17:57:58.300-04:00This is important to hear. God is using your immen...This is important to hear. God is using your immense pain and suffering to reach out to many people who have endured the same personal hells too. May I add, it is also important to let men who does these things know the damage they cause when doing these things, and the understanding that they may get away with such things in this life, but God will be waiting in the next life for them. There will be harsh punishments for such people and justice for all those who have been cruelly mistreated.T-Childshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14973808285834438472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-15302405759731568632012-10-08T19:41:43.023-04:002012-10-08T19:41:43.023-04:00You are so brave to share your story. I had a lot...You are so brave to share your story. I had a lot of troubl in relationships also. I didn't want men to touch me. I got married kind of later at the age of 32. When I married, I did not feel love at all. I didn't know why I was getting married, but the man I met seemed so kind and loving and patient. He still is and I am after all these years starting to finally "feel" love. I am only just starting to have those feelings. I believe love is not about sexual attraction, but rather it is mutual respect and service to each other. Love is appreciating someone and wanting them to always be there. I do hope that you can find healing and love soon. It takes time. Bless YOU! You are such a worthwhile person.Monica https://www.blogger.com/profile/06880809740306892433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-12958512122079636802011-09-21T12:27:11.647-04:002011-09-21T12:27:11.647-04:00Thank you for writing this. I first want to say th...Thank you for writing this. I first want to say that you are very brave for sharing your story with us. I do pray and hope that you have found peace and healing since this post. I do applaud you and admire you for sharing your story and beginning the healing process. It is truly remarkable and amazing that you were able to post this to complete strangers such as myself. I will continue to keep you and prayer and pray that one day you do find love and a love that is so amazing that it blows your mind. I once found that love but because of fear quickly ushered him out of my life. Will I ever find another love like him, I am not sure, but I surely do hope so as he helped me to begin healing and know the difference between what is real love is what is not love. No I am not placing him above God's love, just saying from a natural standpoint as we were made to want companionship with the opposite sex. Well anyway I do hope that you can experience that love and that your love with God grows beyond what you could have ever imagined. Stay blessed JBR.<br /><br />God bless, KayXOXO Dr. Kay Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867856850873370512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-10483277670335997952011-08-31T09:54:48.799-04:002011-08-31T09:54:48.799-04:00Thank you. There are far too many things in this ...Thank you. There are far too many things in this post that I understand from personal experience.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09083941215123554455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-53693582987194213402011-07-06T16:09:34.533-04:002011-07-06T16:09:34.533-04:00I realize this was written over a year ago but I p...I realize this was written over a year ago but I pray that in the months that have followed you have come to know the God who heals us. Our Jehovah Rafa. He continues the healing process in my own life and I understand so well what you share here.sharon brobsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05886459608541959680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-23771219158944520072011-05-11T00:11:06.063-04:002011-05-11T00:11:06.063-04:00Thank you for sharing this and thank you for your ...Thank you for sharing this and thank you for your comment on my blog. It means a lot to me that someone like you would comment on one of my posts.Interruptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08317087737011307005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-71545486381443351072011-05-05T01:42:19.067-04:002011-05-05T01:42:19.067-04:00Dear JBR,
I am so touched by your story because I ...Dear JBR,<br />I am so touched by your story because I was also sexually abused at about the same age by someone who thought to be trusted and did not tell everyone until I told my mom a few years ago. I am not saved and I wanted God in my live and be deliver from this awful stuff that had put me through. Please pay that I will be saved be delivered from the effects from sexual abuse, and help me to forgive this person who did this to me amd outher people who wronged me.Meghttp://megiswritingonthewall.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-22377308496045884282010-10-02T22:41:19.230-04:002010-10-02T22:41:19.230-04:00Your sharing your story is the beginning of a heal...Your sharing your story is the beginning of a healing process. It can take a long time and be very painful, but you have done a very brave thing. Just hang on to Jesus and He will help you with this. Remember to be kind to yourself. Always remember it was not your fault!!Wanda's Wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823654163692296686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-52946637837821953292010-09-28T16:42:22.902-04:002010-09-28T16:42:22.902-04:00Thank you so much for sharing this. It brought up ...Thank you so much for sharing this. It brought up some memories I forgot I had. And the emotions that accompany them. In the end, that will be a good thing.Arrested Pilgrimagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03672175294460609038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-56625994764294603192010-08-20T09:15:26.148-04:002010-08-20T09:15:26.148-04:00I read your story. I am shocked. It is so sad. In ...I read your story. I am shocked. It is so sad. In comparison, I love where you are, today. You're free. Free from all the hurtful things. Don't let the memories cloud your happiness. You're an inspiration for several others to seek.<br /><br />I am so happy that you have this blog, that you have church friends, that you are improving by the day. I am saying a prayer for you.<br /><br />Heal well. The Lord will help and guide you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-62679354566323097002010-08-08T08:48:50.850-04:002010-08-08T08:48:50.850-04:00God Bless you, JBR. Yes, it is a fact that so many...God Bless you, JBR. Yes, it is a fact that so many of us suffer from these difficult, confusing, painful beginnings, often leaving a cloud of terror. The hard part is living in that mist and trying to function normally without opening up to the fact, the truth, the reality of the depth of the pain. Praise the Lord that you, JBR, have opened up and are speaking about "it" to the body of Christ. God promises in his word to restore us, my prayer for me as well, and it can be a very difficult path to walk alone. Opening up gives you the support of your heavenly family and enables you to trust your heavenly Father, who has made a way. Believing that, trusting that, hoping in that, that God has given you a promise, that God will make a way, that all things become possible, that what you thought was dead can again become alive in Christ, will drive you to the healer. Your cries will pierce his heart, which I believe has already happened for you, and you will begin to see miracles in your life, the unseen kind, the kind that change your core, the person who God created you to be, and you will be set free and begin to live in peace. Peace might be the the evidence of resolve, where you had fear, God brings you trust. Where you had doubt, God brings you a surety. The mundane of life suddenly is filled with purpose and meaning; your life matters and can make a difference.<br /><br />Don't ever be afraid to speak up about your life. Jesus died for you to give you new life and God's Word will come alive with life giving messages meant specifically for you. Some day you will be able to be in a mans presence without feeling all of this anxiety. When you recognize the Lord in them you will naturally be drawn. Likewise, when they recognize the Lord in you, they will be drawn. There can be no substitute for peace, which will translate into joy for you.<br /><br />Yes, God Bless you, JBR. God Bless your journey of self discovery, of selfless living, coming alive in Christ. He loves you deeply.<br /><br />Your sister in the Lord,<br />ChrisitneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-33351432370848892872010-05-07T13:45:34.647-04:002010-05-07T13:45:34.647-04:00Thanks for sharing and being real with us! I feel...Thanks for sharing and being real with us! I feel for you and the pain the abuse has caused you. I know singleness is a very, very hard place to be. I always run from it. It is hard to trust anyone, I know. Trust God as He always knows best!Amyhttp://www.therealme29.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-47268145113386082602010-03-27T18:57:23.098-04:002010-03-27T18:57:23.098-04:00JBR, I remember being so insecure around men and n...JBR, I remember being so insecure around men and not having any healthy boundaries. I remember being afraid to say no. I remember not knowing that I had the right to say no. I remember the pain of not knowing who I was because of the incest. My prayers are with you. You are so brave and real.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-18733395499250324752010-03-15T07:11:09.577-04:002010-03-15T07:11:09.577-04:00I was exposed to pornography at an extremely early...I was exposed to pornography at an extremely early age...I can still remember the first time when I was 4 years.(that I recall, I may have been looking at those images earlier but the memory is of 4). I KNEW exactly where the relatives kept the porn. By the time I was 9 I was exposed to XXX movies. My younger cousin (male) and I would go to his father's office and watch them...<br /><br />To have those images in your mind at such an early age, paved the way to many other abuses that came along down the road...<br /><br />I thank God SO much that when I met my husband, he wasn't involved in any pornography. Didn't care if it was in the house..SIGH..Thank God! <br /><br />sigh....hmmmmmmmmmm...Thanks for sharing your heart...I don't think people realize how powerful pornography is, and what it can do to a child exposed to it,,sigh....Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857554289543670693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-8340592445823336272010-03-15T05:29:07.438-04:002010-03-15T05:29:07.438-04:00JBR, I hope you never grow tired of hearing all of...JBR, I hope you never grow tired of hearing all of the wonderful words your friends are saying to you, and that I repeat over and over again. Even though I state to you that I love you, it is a true love that only God can impart in my heart. When I tell you how proud I am of you, what progress you have made, the courage you have to speak those horrific truths concerning your childhood, these are words that are truth. <br />When you spoke of not being able to tell God you love Him, well in my most humble opinion, I know you love Him. How could you be here right now without you learning to love, taking that giant risk! Things are such a slow process, I know this for myself. You are obviously trusting your friends enough to share your REAl feelings of your past, and you are trusting God with all of the muck and mire. It's just so much more difficult for survivors of incest with these trust issues. The wonderful things is that I know without a shadow of a doubt, that no one knows our hearts like Him. He sees us stumbling, falling, walking so ever slowly to Him and I do believe He understands and accepts the smallest of movements we make towards Him. HE UNDERSTANDS like no one else can. I feel like I'm preaching to the choir here. This was an older post that I stumbled upon, so hope you get it. And, I do love you and pray for you God's child. JanieJaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865495431494792336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-48214165300738335882010-03-02T13:28:08.345-05:002010-03-02T13:28:08.345-05:00My dear friend. Thank you for sharing this. I know...My dear friend. Thank you for sharing this. I know it must have taken great courage. I can relate to much of what you write here. I was also abused at about the same age, by my step father. It affects us profoundly. But I also believe we are "as sick as our secrets." Talking about it takes away the power it has over us. Love and hugs to you.Kathy M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17266701533758183054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-61874119186567992332010-03-02T12:21:33.305-05:002010-03-02T12:21:33.305-05:00Thanks, JBR, for your amazing strength and courage...Thanks, JBR, for your amazing strength and courage in sharing this. I know your sharing is helpful to others.Marj aka Thriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06825698906631474866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-86937476274866835632010-03-02T04:27:11.147-05:002010-03-02T04:27:11.147-05:00Oh, JBR, I think you're such a brave woman! Ho...Oh, JBR, I think you're such a brave woman! How much I admire you for sharing a so delicate part of your life with us.But it's good to be able to talk about it. Time is just a great healer. Pain gets lesser with time. You'll see.<br />Big Big Hugs<br />Betty xxBetty Manousoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08549686306725800208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-29730030715723614432010-03-02T01:08:59.683-05:002010-03-02T01:08:59.683-05:00Your blog is very deep and concise. Honesty far e...Your blog is very deep and concise. Honesty far exceeds your words. Enjoyed my stay. Nate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-5178872094043626982010-03-01T21:49:32.037-05:002010-03-01T21:49:32.037-05:00Hello and thanks for adding on at my blog, it mean...Hello and thanks for adding on at my blog, it means alot to me. Love the prayer and verse you have by your header ..It was very compeling. <br />I do not speak much of my sexual abuse but it did happen and , praise God He helped me work through it and still does but, I do believ too that it never truly compeletly goes away, the affects just seem to crep in on us at times..Guess thats normal, I have not knon anyone in my later yrs that ghas experienced it to compare with. If I allow the enemy to confuss me, well, it would hit me hard again I imaginne. My abuse was not near like others had been but i do totally get it all that your saying.. Lets keep our pprayers going up to Our GREAT LORD, Our Master, Our Comforter okay, for all concerned.<br />Lets not allow the enemy to trick us..This is the 1st time I have ever even brought it up to any one online before. Not many know, it was onluy a yr or 2 ago that I even told my mom,I'm not sure if she even believed me, which is why I never told very many about it. It was a family member, and i was pre teen.. Wow .. yep, i just can't let satan trick me. So...the Bible verse to share with all who read this now is>>> "The God of love and peace shall be with you".<br />llCorinthians 13:11 KJV<br />Hugs and Blessings DenaDena E's Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01168750076223982697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-1870120590393683882010-03-01T21:20:19.598-05:002010-03-01T21:20:19.598-05:00Congratulations on being able what to share what y...Congratulations on being able what to share what you did. I felt my own anxiety about my abuse and its effects on me. gentle hugs if you accept them. I have found blogging about my childhood quite helpful...letting my voice be heard.Cluelesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04133271403456164632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-43082961764832136372010-03-01T20:26:58.555-05:002010-03-01T20:26:58.555-05:00I can feel your difficulty but it is good to be ab...I can feel your difficulty but it is good to be able to talk about it.. it gets easier with time and less painfulA Mother Alwayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061214919572800420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-75568385682227524202010-03-01T19:29:27.137-05:002010-03-01T19:29:27.137-05:00I'm so sorry that your brother sexually abuse ...I'm so sorry that your brother sexually abuse you like that..I also know what you mean about not knowing what love is..I'm glad you wrote it, and publish it this time..Sending hugs!~✽Mumsy✽~https://www.blogger.com/profile/10644719969613080399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-7562911592761493062010-03-01T17:32:30.502-05:002010-03-01T17:32:30.502-05:00God can heal...I'm a living truth of it. God c...God can heal...I'm a living truth of it. God completely restored me. I'm happily married to an amazing man. It's been a journey but God is faithful. Praying God restores what was stolen from you.<br /><br />His Love Extended:<br />Julie Gorman<br />http://hisloveextendedministries.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03801069328202876433noreply@blogger.com