tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post4935171705004497901..comments2024-03-26T15:29:51.944-04:00Comments on Just Be Real: SURVIVAL MODE - PRETENDINGJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-91853723995618981392010-10-12T20:39:05.186-04:002010-10-12T20:39:05.186-04:00You are doing awesome.You are doing awesome.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275456448997619944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-9214527097158735332010-10-12T19:58:20.460-04:002010-10-12T19:58:20.460-04:00It's easy to hate mothers.
We want so much fro...It's easy to hate mothers.<br />We want so much from them<br />...need so much from them.<br />Our longing for our parent's love<br />is epic.<br />On this wounded planet full of broken people,<br />it's rare to be loved well and enough by them.<br />We're all still kind of reeling in pain<br />from our original parent's mistakes.<br />Thank God for your ability to voice <br />what you needed and what you feel.<br />You're moving forward so very well.<br />Forgiveness is transformational.<br />But can't happen until we acknowledge and FEEL<br />the pain.<br />Oh, tender friend,<br />trusting the Lord to comfort, comfort, comfort<br />you in your bruised places.<br />And to comfort and heal your broken parents, <br />as well.<br />-JenniferJennifer Richardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04305032927925322733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-34707838736420884722010-10-11T19:51:03.054-04:002010-10-11T19:51:03.054-04:00It is too easy for me to go into survival mode, es...It is too easy for me to go into survival mode, especially when I forget my therapy and what I have learned from it. I am still a very angry person, but a lot of it is self-inflicted. I am my own worst enemy. So I am trying to unlearn an all too comfortable mode of survival.<br /><br />My T says for me to stop, think and reflect before I react. I am so good at just blurting out the first thing I think of.<br /><br />JBR, you are truely an inspiration to me and others as well. It took me years to forgive and let go of the pain my mother caused at my expense.<br /><br />Stay strong and know that you are loved.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-61879291199055181472010-10-11T19:19:34.196-04:002010-10-11T19:19:34.196-04:00This breaks my heart. JBR, my darling, you're ...This breaks my heart. JBR, my darling, you're a brave, strong, optimistic woman. You impress me with your honesty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-24627116259990516452010-10-11T16:08:27.337-04:002010-10-11T16:08:27.337-04:00JBR,
I think we all have moments when we fall ba...JBR, <br /><br />I think we all have moments when we fall back into what has been the norm for us for so long. The hardest thing to do is not look back and keep pushing further forward, but I completely understand. The good thing is God is always waiting for us to catch up. <br /><br />Love and Hugs ~ KatHeart2Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05240536955573366802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-3914157661465588992010-10-11T11:57:13.285-04:002010-10-11T11:57:13.285-04:00Sweetie your doing a great job. The memories are ...Sweetie your doing a great job. The memories are coming back to help you along to healing.Dee Deenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-51549374218026393442010-10-11T11:45:57.757-04:002010-10-11T11:45:57.757-04:00I think what you're saying here is that living...I think what you're saying here is that living is scary and angering sometimes. Very wise! Survival mode is not a terrible thing-- while it doesn't mean that you're "thriving" it does mean that you're getting through things. First the cart, then the horse, right?<br /><br />Wishing you well,<br />NOSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-52113235209758596112010-10-11T11:42:06.386-04:002010-10-11T11:42:06.386-04:00You are long way into becoming a new person! As a...You are long way into becoming a new person! As a child you only did what you could to cope, with no help from adults. It takes a strong person to work through these issues. (((JBR)))WinnyNinny PooPoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13237156887425609665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-38447180551485623712010-10-11T10:16:11.539-04:002010-10-11T10:16:11.539-04:00Sorry for the pain of divorce, happy you are findi...Sorry for the pain of divorce, happy you are finding compassion for your Mom<br />kimKim@stuffcould....https://www.blogger.com/profile/03566751822418137457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-25275389306165502062010-10-11T09:17:55.860-04:002010-10-11T09:17:55.860-04:00I'm going through deep pain recenly. Your wor...I'm going through deep pain recenly. Your words are a breath of fresh air to my ears. Sometimes I wonder if life is worth living. I'm sure our ages are different. But it doesn't minimize the pain that we go through. Thanks for your words of wisdom and being a beacon of light in a dark place.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-84007665143973949352010-10-11T08:56:14.607-04:002010-10-11T08:56:14.607-04:00I can so relate to this post! I too was very angr...I can so relate to this post! I too was very angry with my mother growing up and did many of the same things you did. It wasn't until after my dad pasted away a couple of years ago that I finally started working through all the pain and anger with her. I 'finially' forgave her for how she treated my dad and me.. so differently than my younger brother. Completely differently! <br /><br />I'm very glad that you are able to see now how unhappy she was and that shouldn't even take care of herself. My mother too! She never dealt witht the pain of her fathers sudden death when she was 19 and then when her mother died suddenly of a heart attack... well, she just never recovered. So sad!<br /> <br />However, You and I are not living the rest of our lives the same way. We are Healing and growing and learning to not only take care of ourselfs, but Help others along the way. That and reading your words have helped me do all of those things much faster. Thank you for letting us into your world!! You are helping so Many!!<br /><br />Blessings & Hugh HUG,<br />CoreenVelvet Over Steelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08625445902301159594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-43391091900288122182010-10-11T07:57:01.960-04:002010-10-11T07:57:01.960-04:00Such insightful words. As always your courage wit...Such insightful words. As always your courage with facing clean pain inspires me. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10894198889834343321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-18987977320236860852010-10-11T07:49:23.908-04:002010-10-11T07:49:23.908-04:00Another successful chapter in your life JBR. God&...Another successful chapter in your life JBR. God's timing is always right. What you've endured through your life can only make you stronger. You help so many here on your blog. God Bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-61168499147927813702010-10-11T07:46:28.772-04:002010-10-11T07:46:28.772-04:00it is a big pill...i am glad you are finding compa...it is a big pill...i am glad you are finding compassion for her...you have had quite the journey to this point...my HS years were not my best either...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.com