tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post5328075970720493616..comments2024-03-26T15:29:51.944-04:00Comments on Just Be Real: WISHED I USED A MEANSJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-33688950774220931782009-10-28T10:46:20.983-04:002009-10-28T10:46:20.983-04:00Okay, (deep breath), here goes. I am publicly goin...Okay, (deep breath), here goes. I am publicly going to say it, "I was molested as a child before the age of three."<br /><br />I closed off this event(s) and did not remember the one incident until I was 52 years old. I have struggled writing a novel of a lifetime of ramifications that stem from that one incident. I feel I may be able to help someone out there. I've had this on my heart for three years and can't seem to keep going once I begin writing. But before I die, I must write the book. This one incident that I DO recall, and there may have been others but I was so young, opened my heart and mind to all of the thousands of hurts that I have experienced in several aspects of my life. It is a part of my personality, and I could not change who I was, until I found out WHY I reacted, responded, etc., the way that I do to life circumstances.<br /><br />Okay, it was hard, but now I've said it. I hope I can begin anew on the book and tell the story that needs to be told.<br /><br />God bless you, JBR. I know He sent you to me for a reason.<br /><br />Love,<br />AbbeyAbbey's Roadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04031127190630487584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-21001021651641596902009-10-27T16:47:07.002-04:002009-10-27T16:47:07.002-04:00Dear JBR,
We are all such perfectly unique individ...Dear JBR,<br />We are all such perfectly unique individuals. Why did we experience things just as we did and not like someone else? Who knows? GOD KNOWS! Our experiences just as they were prepare us to be uniquely helpful to others who responded just as we did. This is what is in my mind after reading your blog. <br /><br />Love and prayers,<br />PGOne Prayer Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455437909918314217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-56556808133303363692009-10-27T13:20:26.346-04:002009-10-27T13:20:26.346-04:00I so admire you!I so admire you!Margiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14433759763753850718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-24691134614390195492009-10-27T12:41:22.672-04:002009-10-27T12:41:22.672-04:00What a beautiful ministry you have created with Go...What a beautiful ministry you have created with God's grace. Feelings can't kill us but they can certainly help us to feel dead. Thank you for your honesty and courage. Love, Kathy <a href="http://kathyberman.com" rel="nofollow">kathyberman.com</a>.kbermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16087236840097045265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-29952125325880610862009-10-27T07:35:35.881-04:002009-10-27T07:35:35.881-04:00Thank you all for taking the time to share your he...Thank you all for taking the time to share your heart with me! Your encouragement helps tremendously. You are so much appreciated!Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-50264639103758283032009-10-27T07:32:09.093-04:002009-10-27T07:32:09.093-04:00Rejoice daily in the promises and security that ev...Rejoice daily in the promises and security that every believer can take as his own. Our God is trustworthy and ever does His passion for His people shine through His word; so take heed the wondrous pledges of His love for you, His child.Tolahttp://www.blueletterbible.org/index.cfmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-26471328237326606182009-10-27T07:27:17.410-04:002009-10-27T07:27:17.410-04:00I think you did have a way of dealing with it: you...I think you did have a way of dealing with it: you ignored it. Sometimes that how we all cope with something to painful to know. I can tell that you are coping differently now, tho, which is a very good thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-52711400549747129132009-10-27T07:12:12.945-04:002009-10-27T07:12:12.945-04:00Feel what you feel and remember what you will, dea...Feel what you feel and remember what you will, deal the hand and look at the cards. The hand changes with each deal and eventually you will have the whole picture of the past including everything you are not quite convinced of as reality or unsure memory.<br /><br />As long as you keep picking up the cards all will be revealed...poker after all is a sort of jigsaw puzzle.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-50776732524303006432009-10-27T07:11:05.212-04:002009-10-27T07:11:05.212-04:00Tough subject to talk about openly.
SecretiaTough subject to talk about openly.<br /><br />SecretiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-26129754613076687192009-10-27T05:47:08.513-04:002009-10-27T05:47:08.513-04:00Hang in there JBR! You're doing fine!Hang in there JBR! You're doing fine!stuck-in-the-middlenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-62568989981665166252009-10-27T05:02:09.776-04:002009-10-27T05:02:09.776-04:00Your progress through your struggles along with yo...Your progress through your struggles along with your up and down times all is a sign of your strength to be able to write about it now. Your awareness is evident. It was not ready back then. Your maturity was not ready. Live in the moment now and keep on sharing as you do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-75472790947153859072009-10-27T00:55:57.741-04:002009-10-27T00:55:57.741-04:00It will come out in time...in God's time.
I...It will come out in time...in God's time.<br />I'm in counseling now and am finding that all the little things that I discover and go through (which don't actually feel little) lead me and prepare me for the revelations that come later. God is directing you...continue to trust him. Praying for you...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-5684439515850929212009-10-27T00:14:23.388-04:002009-10-27T00:14:23.388-04:00Focus on the now sweetie, I am so thankful for you...Focus on the now sweetie, I am so thankful for your current writing. I love you.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275456448997619944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-16498504973438612952009-10-26T23:49:55.021-04:002009-10-26T23:49:55.021-04:00Such a beautifully written post with so much insig...Such a beautifully written post with so much insight and depth. Count is joy that God has given you the words to speak now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-91617962616732266582009-10-26T22:23:55.399-04:002009-10-26T22:23:55.399-04:00Oh JBR, where did you get that pic where Jesus hug...Oh JBR, where did you get that pic where Jesus hugs a little girl? I wish to get some pics like that too for my blog. :)Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05651509769892366794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-9937271042680291102009-10-26T22:22:53.053-04:002009-10-26T22:22:53.053-04:00By sharing your experiences here, your blog is hel...By sharing your experiences here, your blog is helping many people. Continue to trust in God. He's healing you.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05651509769892366794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-84559437924752637762009-10-26T20:24:04.714-04:002009-10-26T20:24:04.714-04:00JBR I agree with the majority here that your writi...JBR I agree with the majority here that your writings now are so beneficial. Go with that!strawberryhttp://strawberry.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-90923678424887005822009-10-26T18:11:10.215-04:002009-10-26T18:11:10.215-04:00hugs.. from another incest survivor.. but now I...hugs.. from another incest survivor.. but now I'm not just surviving.. I'm Thriving.. :)Ms Hen'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844440761689489376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-56323466749645678252009-10-26T17:41:32.721-04:002009-10-26T17:41:32.721-04:00Take your tiem as you recover. I to never wrote t...Take your tiem as you recover. I to never wrote things down when I was going through family issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-3491666868909577162009-10-26T15:56:08.301-04:002009-10-26T15:56:08.301-04:00I know all about escaping into another world. I wo...I know all about escaping into another world. I would spend most of my free time with my nose buried in a book - still do... but now it's mostly because I enjoy it so much, not to escape! :)<br /><br />The important thing is that you're writing now and help others with your writing! Thanks for writing and for helping so many! Love, S.C.serene chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18316563333275112217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-83329625884269192692009-10-26T15:19:06.394-04:002009-10-26T15:19:06.394-04:00And now you can urge others to WRITE their experie...And now you can urge others to WRITE their experiences as they are happening. Of course, who of us, in all the pain of active abusive situations, comes onto a recovery group of bloggers to "share" and help others?<br /><br />You are being real, it sounds like.<br /><br />PEACEsteveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17498524940140288735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-23432150679418538142009-10-26T15:12:17.733-04:002009-10-26T15:12:17.733-04:00You taught yourself to play guitar, I did too. Isn...You taught yourself to play guitar, I did too. Isn't it great that you did that? That's such a lovely skill to have. I'm still SO impressed you got up and sang with it!!!!!! I recently felt some regret that earlier attempts at counselling weren't very successful and I wished things had been different but then I realised that everything happens at the right time. You're writing very well now!speck of dusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11186894112123114159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-88931396813261740542009-10-26T13:42:31.453-04:002009-10-26T13:42:31.453-04:00JBR,
The great news is that you are writing abou...JBR, <br /><br />The great news is that you are writing about it now, and you have your blog as a record of all this time. I think in the end, just putting your thoughts down will help you deal with rough days in the future. You have something you can look back on for strength and that is your own words!<br /><br />Love and Hugs ~ KatHeart2Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05240536955573366802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-42142444908100347402009-10-26T13:22:52.404-04:002009-10-26T13:22:52.404-04:00When I was younger and wrote about my pain I did i...When I was younger and wrote about my pain I did it in such a way NO ONE would know what I was talking about. You see, I was consumed with the fear that someone would indeed find out and then there was the shame. Each of us is different. I do not know if it helped me to write back then or not....<br />andreaAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03082891172963869545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-64710936754594368292009-10-26T12:09:48.184-04:002009-10-26T12:09:48.184-04:00it will come out, remember it is all in due time. ...it will come out, remember it is all in due time. do not beat yourself up for finding a way to survive, those times when you stuffed you were in survival mode, now it sounds like you are coming to a surrender and acceptance. this healing process is a process and does not happen over night, but it sounds like it is happening, just allow yourself to feel now and let it go. and remember to write it down and get it out. hope this helps.clean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.com