tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post6035446883982520166..comments2024-03-26T15:29:51.944-04:00Comments on Just Be Real: FLACK FROM SETTING BOUNDARIESJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-89953161792838539972010-11-13T00:57:19.371-05:002010-11-13T00:57:19.371-05:00Good luck and you know that may cause it to get wo...Good luck and you know that may cause it to get worse before it gets better. Hang on. sandieChatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-79135362865689507562010-11-12T21:45:53.092-05:002010-11-12T21:45:53.092-05:00Good luck on working this out with your Mom. Be p...Good luck on working this out with your Mom. Be praying for ya!!WinnyNinny PooPoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13237156887425609665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-20338257445491633972010-11-12T20:19:08.091-05:002010-11-12T20:19:08.091-05:00I know this must be difficult for you, JBR. Keep y...I know this must be difficult for you, JBR. Keep your chin up and know that you have a lot of prayer support! Maybe with a little time your mother will notice the positive changes in you and will take steps herself to get over her own fears. After all, it's never too late for someone to change. If you are firm it may make her take a step back and look at herself. Good luck, JBR!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-67848372029256967032010-11-12T11:28:05.340-05:002010-11-12T11:28:05.340-05:00Good luck with the boundary setting. I have 100% ...Good luck with the boundary setting. I have 100% confidence in you. But remember that you are not responsible for your mother's feelings. You already recognize that she will not like this boundary, but that's her problem, not yours. I think sometimes we like to protect others, especially those that are close to us.<br /><br />Stay strong, JBR. You're doing great!<br /><br />Wishing you well,<br />NOSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-36758631178728890932010-11-12T10:09:32.799-05:002010-11-12T10:09:32.799-05:00First of all, though I have been coming here for a...First of all, though I have been coming here for a while, if you are getting some help without any reservation to tell a therapist about the innermost feelings you've been keeping, that's a lot of courage right there. I pray that your mom will have an open heart and mind to the things you need to tell her. May His divine wisdom guide you and may He protect you in everything that you do. Have a great weekend.RCUBEshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03726426726039665564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-86336261801640396302010-11-12T09:39:23.466-05:002010-11-12T09:39:23.466-05:00I am going to start praying for you mother as well...I am going to start praying for you mother as well as you. I hope you find a solution though prayer and the courage to ask your mother to let go. Does she do that to your brother? I know he lives away from you.<br /><br />Could you just make a statement like "Mother, I am going to play tennis and there is no need to worry about me." If she says it again, then repeat the statement.<br /><br />Sometimes, I wonder if this over concern by you mother relates to the abuse you suffered at your brother's hands. Perhaps, she really knew what was going on and now in some feeble attempt she is trying to make up for not helping you when you were young? <br /><br />I like symbolism a lot. Get an apron and tell her you are cutting the apron strings. Does your mother live in Christ? YOu could approach it from a Bible scripture. Children are a gift from God on loan to a parent for only a little time. <br /><br />Letting go of her irrational fear will be hard for your mother. Just don't play into it. Be strong.<br /><br />Keep the faith and know that it is the trials that purify us and make us stronger.<br /><br />Love you, <br />PamFinding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-58718204707487866152010-11-12T09:04:16.040-05:002010-11-12T09:04:16.040-05:00Have you or are you reading Boundaries by Townson ...Have you or are you reading Boundaries by Townson and Cloud, if not check it out. There are even workbooks in the set.<br />Stand above all stand:)<br />Conciser the weakness and the WHY of how she is as you set your limits hoping to perhaps make it a bit easier for her to respond. Not co-dep but kind slippery slopeDonettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530145585581721795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-21202272656867417302010-11-12T07:04:16.464-05:002010-11-12T07:04:16.464-05:00great stuff...working with the families i do i hav...great stuff...working with the families i do i have to put a lot of boundaries in place with/for them...ugh...lots of work...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-56639568623640462322010-11-12T06:46:23.196-05:002010-11-12T06:46:23.196-05:00The devotional you share contains some very wise a...The devotional you share contains some very wise and difficult thoughts. It is so much easier for us to simply continue even with patterns that aren't healthy or that harm us rather than trying to change them. So I wish you luck in this, and know that God will give you the strength to manage it. Such a brave yet difficult thing to do!<br />ColleenColleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13564805397010089954noreply@blogger.com