tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post6705412899036996350..comments2024-03-26T15:29:51.944-04:00Comments on Just Be Real: MOTHER'S IRRATIONAL FEARSJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-52803858647643837632009-08-30T10:48:24.596-04:002009-08-30T10:48:24.596-04:00JBR-this situation is not limited to daughters/mot...JBR-this situation is not limited to daughters/mothers. And it is never good or healthy. trust me. ~rickRikkijhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10933627704520555139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-35650765590095201172009-08-30T08:59:20.222-04:002009-08-30T08:59:20.222-04:00Well done -- you handled the visit well!
SueWell done -- you handled the visit well!<br /><br />SueAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01768938500651028113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-21962600808469646112009-08-29T18:56:18.316-04:002009-08-29T18:56:18.316-04:00At one time she was thinking about it, but found o...At one time she was thinking about it, but found out that she does not qualify for them financially. <br /><br />My mother is not that bad off then she makes herself out to be. She still drives, (drives me crazy also), works, finds time to socialize in her condo and gets around. She has her office friends also. Once my step-father died, she lost her companion and started clinging much more to me.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-31019325413970426632009-08-29T18:48:30.643-04:002009-08-29T18:48:30.643-04:00I get the impression your mom just does not have m...I get the impression your mom just does not have many outside interests apart from her children. You will always both need each other but it's not the same as it was when you were a child. She seems stuck with that somehow. None of my business but out of curiosity, has she ever looked into those Assisted Living Communities. I know many thrive in there because they make friends and there are all kinds of activities. I don't know how old your mother is but would encouraging her to take up a new hobby or class help at all?Fitter After 50https://www.blogger.com/profile/12218341638563250124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-81568523039041029482009-08-29T18:29:53.431-04:002009-08-29T18:29:53.431-04:00Kat, appreciate you comment, I really do!!
I know...Kat, appreciate you comment, I really do!!<br /><br />I know what you are saying that I should be more compassionate to my mothers needs. True, to some degree. I just do not want to go back to my old ways and cave into her "guilt" which she is so trying to continue with me. I done with that!Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-62306572256278320882009-08-29T17:44:11.464-04:002009-08-29T17:44:11.464-04:00JBR,
You mom is probably starting to realize tha...JBR, <br /><br />You mom is probably starting to realize that the older she gets the closer she is to dying and that concerns her. She is lonely and is searching desperately for a connection. Right now you seem to be it. Good or bad, your time there, you will miss it when your mom is gone. There will be no more requests, no more questions about which route you take, no more lists of things to fix and no mom to visit. <br /><br />See this time for what it is now, possibly something God is putting in your path. Pray to Him and ask what your purpose is here and ask for grace, understanding and compassion while you are with her. <br /><br />Love and Hugs ~ KatHeart2Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05240536955573366802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-83964497149926216442009-08-29T17:29:56.452-04:002009-08-29T17:29:56.452-04:00YaYa, I thought something was going on. I am so v...YaYa, I thought something was going on. I am so very sorry. Dear one, take your time. I appreciate your visit.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-37046362082915143542009-08-29T17:17:26.453-04:002009-08-29T17:17:26.453-04:00Yup, I remember that feeling.
Sorry I'm not b...Yup, I remember that feeling.<br /><br />Sorry I'm not by as much. I had more repressed memories creep up and I have been trying to process them....hard to blog when I have too much going on in my mind...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-9449735058370989492009-08-29T17:13:52.424-04:002009-08-29T17:13:52.424-04:00Silvia and Paula, thank you for your comments.Silvia and Paula, thank you for your comments.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-24396067467535712432009-08-29T17:06:31.786-04:002009-08-29T17:06:31.786-04:00Dear JBR, how I understand your situation. You hav...Dear JBR, how I understand your situation. You have exactly the opposite problem that I had. I used to tell my mother to come and live with me so that I could take care of her, but she wants to be as far away from me as she can. Now I gave up. I know how desperating it is, though.Silviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16895191247297700626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-65407440569856570332009-08-29T16:58:37.158-04:002009-08-29T16:58:37.158-04:00She is lucky you fix those things for her. When I ...She is lucky you fix those things for her. When I used to take my Mama to the doctor she would tell me P (younger sister) drives in that lane. I know your frustration.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007728342316668058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-1856133484684336302009-08-29T16:50:40.863-04:002009-08-29T16:50:40.863-04:00Denise, you are so right. I just cannot do this w...Denise, you are so right. I just cannot do this worrying anymore and listening to all negative stuff from her.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-69753338437080349832009-08-29T16:44:09.815-04:002009-08-29T16:44:09.815-04:00I am very proud of the way you handled this visit ...I am very proud of the way you handled this visit with your mom, you are doing so well.Telling her you would pray that she would not worry so much, very nice. I love you.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275456448997619944noreply@blogger.com