tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post6920389936085752509..comments2024-03-26T15:29:51.944-04:00Comments on Just Be Real: FALSE GUILTJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-63758507321456979692010-11-16T09:35:44.289-05:002010-11-16T09:35:44.289-05:00JBR, you're in my thoughts today ... pls do no...JBR, you're in my thoughts today ... pls do not go to see your mom expecting the worse though... I would probably go there imagining it will go surprisingly well ... and I would drop the expectations of the outcome of this meeting ... I know it's hard for you but please try ... imagine your mom as the little girl she ones was ... try to find empathy with that little girl she was ... don't concentrate on what she became ... oh I hope you don't mind me saying that dear JBR, just speaking from my own experience ... blessings!!Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09891761282823761830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-54164275424842206892010-11-14T19:45:39.621-05:002010-11-14T19:45:39.621-05:00False guilt is a tough one, JBR. May God give your...False guilt is a tough one, JBR. May God give your mother the light to see that the way she treats you is unhealthy for both of you and that good boundaries improve a relationship in the long run. There is nothing wrong with being firm but kind about your right to live your own life. She seems to have a lot of fears that need to be worked through. I will pray for her, too.Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-24085701306879355832010-11-14T16:07:01.527-05:002010-11-14T16:07:01.527-05:00I don't know your situation, so I won't of...I don't know your situation, so I won't offer any advice. I'll simply say I've been the victim of false guilt, and it's sometimes difficult to move past it, much less recognize it in the first place. Good for you for doing both, and may the Lord guide and direct you as you continue to deal with (what is obviously) a sticky situation.<br /><br />peace~elaineelaine @ peace for the journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09675745465728814736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-83811465801533077432010-11-14T14:38:56.633-05:002010-11-14T14:38:56.633-05:00I am so sorry that this is such a process for you!...I am so sorry that this is such a process for you! I can somewhat understand the guilt because my mother thrives on guilt, but hear me - when I stopped wearing the guilt hat, my mother (and family) kicked and screamed but now, my mother respects me more, I can tell. She hasn't tried to give me the guilt hat for some time. I think she is relieved that I'm not that way anymore. Maybe your mother will soon realize it is nice to be with you and not feel as if she has the burden of control to deal with. (hopefully)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-61720223076550655142010-11-14T11:06:23.614-05:002010-11-14T11:06:23.614-05:00I can identify with your guilt. I wish for you to...I can identify with your guilt. I wish for you to build an invisible wall and not to let it hurt you today, sandieChatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-72775857933613081452010-11-14T10:48:36.767-05:002010-11-14T10:48:36.767-05:00Good luck at dinner! You are very strong, JBR. I...Good luck at dinner! You are very strong, JBR. I think you'll do a great job of taking care of yourself tonight.<br /><br />Wishing you well,<br />NOSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-64561421667994364582010-11-14T10:48:02.844-05:002010-11-14T10:48:02.844-05:00God will be there with you JBR!God will be there with you JBR!Wanda's Wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823654163692296686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-61628312499277272442010-11-14T10:37:08.708-05:002010-11-14T10:37:08.708-05:00Sending strength your way JBR. You have no abilit...Sending strength your way JBR. You have no ability to change your mom, but you are well on the way to changing how she affects you and that is even better!!! WooHoo, and even is she is a guilt monger I wish your Mom the best birthday she can bring herself to celebrate.WinnyNinny PooPoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13237156887425609665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-86678814727957929792010-11-14T10:28:36.751-05:002010-11-14T10:28:36.751-05:00Just praying that you will indeed have a great tim...Just praying that you will indeed have a great time together. No fighting or arguments!<br /><br />I believe that if someone is trying to make me feel guilty, it is a reflection of what they feel inside even if I haven't done anything wrong. I used to be upset then. With the Lord's grace, I'm beginning to understand to speak up for myself if needed. <br /><br />Praying for the Lord to guide you, give you discernment and protect you both from the enemy's attacks who will try to destroy any relationship. Just remember, if you're getting uncomfortable, you do have the Armor! Blessings.RCUBEshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03726426726039665564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-82617962303702400702010-11-14T09:03:29.551-05:002010-11-14T09:03:29.551-05:00HUGS JBR... I pray that Christ speaks through you ...HUGS JBR... I pray that Christ speaks through you to your mother. <br /><br />Peace and love,<br />PamFinding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-43075862038072632652010-11-14T08:30:13.885-05:002010-11-14T08:30:13.885-05:00prayers for you today....stay strong as you need.....prayers for you today....stay strong as you need...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-63530651251241935682010-11-14T07:57:39.532-05:002010-11-14T07:57:39.532-05:00hi jbr~ oh goodness yes, i can strongly identify w...hi jbr~ oh goodness yes, i can strongly identify with feeling false guilt. if i'm not careful, i'll find myself apologizing and feeling guilty often for things i don't need to. and at this point this mostly comes from within me, than from a person trying to make me feel guilty. my heart goes out to you that you have someone close in your life who puts such pressure on you to doubt in yourself, to allow them to interfere in your life, or any other effects that controlling has on you. <br /><br />i wish you all the best today. that you are able to have a day that brings you peace and in which you feel as strong as you need to be~me as i amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14709343968813770150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-19224328100843294712010-11-14T07:29:00.171-05:002010-11-14T07:29:00.171-05:00Awesome Post! Thanks for sharing.
Blessings,
Tam...Awesome Post! Thanks for sharing.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />TammyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-40519918129366964862010-11-14T06:25:57.123-05:002010-11-14T06:25:57.123-05:00Great post :)
There is a live meditation event in ...Great post :)<br />There is a live meditation event in HK if you are so inclined and happen to be near yor computer :)<br /><br />http://stream.pvweb.org/<br /><br />TNH will do a talk afterward. should be an hour or so I think..<br />Have a great Sunday JBR :)An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.com