tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post505521588674537930..comments2023-12-23T09:46:45.472-05:00Comments on Just Be Real: TRAUMA and SHAMEJust Be Realhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-30974713994956164742022-08-18T02:12:38.022-04:002022-08-18T02:12:38.022-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-30709269003639894352009-06-17T08:27:53.559-04:002009-06-17T08:27:53.559-04:00Hello,
You just started following my blog so I c...Hello, <br /><br />You just started following my blog so I came over to “meet” you. I have been reading your recent post from the top down to here. I am encouraged to see how you are turning to God for your strength. I want to encourage you too, but anything I can think of right now just sounds weak. I see you have a little note at the left of your blog which says, “I hate fake people”, well I do too. I do not want to come across as being one of those fake people. So for now…I will just get to know you better before I attempt to say anything meaningful. <br /><br />Keep seeking Jesus…the Truth and the Life.<br /><br />♥HopeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-51003925491223240402009-06-13T01:25:55.466-04:002009-06-13T01:25:55.466-04:00JBR, the more you seek Him, the more you'll kn...JBR, the more you seek Him, the more you'll know that love "too deep to stand." The more of Him you'll see and the less of the past. Whether or not the shame is forgotten this side of heaven, it IS covered by His love and <a href="http://building-his-body.blogspot.com/2009/06/our-righteousness.html" rel="nofollow">righteousness</a>.<br /><br />Never forget that Jesus knows our shame. He not only endured the shame of hanging naked (the Romans did not use loincloths), but He took upon Himself the greater shame of all sin. He never did anything wrong, yet He accepted every sin—its pain, its death to the soul, its intense shame. That includes the shame of every violation in every sexual sin.<br /><br />He knows our shame firsthand. He makes a trade. He takes our shame and gives us His righteousness. When the blood of Jesus covers our shame, we are as pure in God's eyes as Mary the virgin when she received His Spirit to conceive the life of Jesus. His Spirit could not enter us as (it did her) unless we were first pure. Now pure, in us is conceived the life of Jesus by the power of the Holy Spirit.<br /><br />Satan wants us to believe we're still filthy and covered with shame. That's a lie from the pit of hell.<br /><br />You've just been added to my prayer list. I'm asking the Lord to reveal to you the purity and righteousness that is yours in Him.<br /><br /><i>Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, lest you become weary and discouraged in your souls.</i> (Hebrews 12:1-3)Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-75624218470623780122009-06-11T23:06:05.601-04:002009-06-11T23:06:05.601-04:00Hi Lisa Marie. Appreciate your visit once again. ...Hi Lisa Marie. Appreciate your visit once again. So very sorry you suffer with the effects of abuse. Sounds like you are on a positive road to recovery! Blessings.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-16721023429269286202009-06-11T18:58:45.657-04:002009-06-11T18:58:45.657-04:00Wow, this post hits very close to home for me. Onl...Wow, this post hits very close to home for me. Only now that I am talking about the abuse itself am I finding out the ramifications of how it has affected my life aside from the "obvious" reasons. So glad I found your site.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05952500756645034418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-84524210922146481782009-06-11T15:05:45.154-04:002009-06-11T15:05:45.154-04:00Mile, I am really glad to see you here! You are a...Mile, I am really glad to see you here! You are always a bright spot for me also dear one! Blessings and (((Mile)))Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-12859136984719155212009-06-11T14:58:35.223-04:002009-06-11T14:58:35.223-04:00thank you for writing this. i remember having cou...thank you for writing this. i remember having courage finally, i am still seeking to be free. this was really wonderful, and you are so amazing. i miss you, i haven't been on the computer much lately, i really miss the reading and healing that comes from support that you give me. hugs.mile191https://www.blogger.com/profile/12948235476841214379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-41361137409298957392009-06-11T14:20:53.136-04:002009-06-11T14:20:53.136-04:00I ditto what you said!
Does take courage and I ...I ditto what you said! <br /><br />Does take courage and I too am proud for anyone who comes out of denial and wants to be set free. Thank you for your comment dear one!Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-23445796642447338802009-06-11T14:18:09.861-04:002009-06-11T14:18:09.861-04:00Thanks so much for sharing your feelings and those...Thanks so much for sharing your feelings and those excerpts! It just makes me tear up thinking of how so many have layers of pain and shame from what trauma they have experienced. I'm so proud of everyone who is working through their pain. That takes so much courage!IKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02596027732247383510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-25182529166485888322009-06-11T13:41:57.817-04:002009-06-11T13:41:57.817-04:00Broken, so glad to see your comment dear! Give yo...Broken, so glad to see your comment dear! Give your past time to heal.....as long as it may take. Blessings dear one.<br /><br />Hey Ron, nice to see you again. Appreciate the encouragement of strength and peace! Blessings.<br /><br />RCUBEs, thank you for your very sweet comment dear. Appreciate your thoughts. Blessings.<br /><br />Janet, experience can make all the difference in the world, but then again, you can have a lot of experience and still miss the mark. Even some therapist are in denial with their 'own stuff.'<br /><br />Thanks for your comment dear!Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-64333906877980683302009-06-11T13:16:50.015-04:002009-06-11T13:16:50.015-04:00Thank you. Thank you. I think I'm still lear...Thank you. Thank you. I think I'm still learning that my hurt is real. That the past is not only real, but that it's *my* past. Thank you for being so honest, and caring.<br />Much love<br />BrokenCourtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16098775489846879005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-32910735944206539212009-06-11T13:00:56.995-04:002009-06-11T13:00:56.995-04:00See you've been quite busy. May God always gr...See you've been quite busy. May God always grant you the peace and strength you need to enable you to continue through your journey.<br /><br />"I AM WITH YOU ALWAYS" (Mt 28:20)Ronhttp://www.geocities.com/ron_greib/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-80890514987125399202009-06-11T12:48:32.911-04:002009-06-11T12:48:32.911-04:00"Roof-tile construction" is a great desc..."Roof-tile construction" is a great description to show that trauma covers another one. If one is not an expert with roofing, they wouldn't know how to undo that part where fixing is needed. <br /><br />But then, sometimes, it's hard to go to an experienced therapist, too, still because of shame that abuse had caused or the financial cost.<br /><br />JBR, your post always blesses me as I learn more and more about the courage you have shown in overcoming this hurdle. God bless you and I truly appreciate your visits. The Lord's strength is your strength!RCUBEshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03726426726039665564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-59173585944753008322009-06-11T12:05:13.118-04:002009-06-11T12:05:13.118-04:00To some degree I agree with the doctor of this art...To some degree I agree with the doctor of this article. An experienced therapist will know what to look for in an abused individual. There are usually red flags. Thanks for posting on this topic.Janet Whitewaterhttp://www.findapsychologist.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-90945770605523470832009-06-11T11:12:51.858-04:002009-06-11T11:12:51.858-04:00Even though I can't relate so much, I am under...Even though I can't relate so much, I am understanding more and more of your pain and the others who also post. Hang in there JBR!stuck-in-the-middlenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-68661252382631998192009-06-11T09:41:08.118-04:002009-06-11T09:41:08.118-04:00Good way of describing the secret as a poison Coll...Good way of describing the secret as a poison Colleen. As always, appreciate you! (((hugs)))<br /><br />Sweet Stevie-yeah I know, need to keep your ego going, huh? ;)Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-42782029990352418802009-06-11T08:08:07.499-04:002009-06-11T08:08:07.499-04:00range from rigid personal habits to clowning aroun...range from rigid personal habits to clowning around.<br /><br />Heck, I got BOTH.<br /><br />BTW, I simply L.O.V.E. SWEET STEVIE!!!!!!!<br /><br />It always makes my day!steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17498524940140288735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-28567462264301876622009-06-11T06:45:05.915-04:002009-06-11T06:45:05.915-04:00Dear one, AD so very sorry that you cope similar w...Dear one, AD so very sorry that you cope similar with your pain. Thank you for sharing. Blessings.<br /><br />Denise, thank you dear, appreciate the comment. Blessings and hugs.<br /><br />Gin, sorry that you have to resort to your coping mechanism to survive. I do pray some day you will be able to better handle the pain of your husbands drinking and the effect it has on you. Blessings dear one.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-53712628138088573962009-06-11T06:37:01.775-04:002009-06-11T06:37:01.775-04:00My way of coping with painful experiences is to do...My way of coping with painful experiences is to do the same as you JBR. I slip into "la-la land." I can only imagine how painful your experiences must have been. You are a very strong woman. *hugs*Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03634190384284402700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-42256840708746808572009-06-11T06:29:34.990-04:002009-06-11T06:29:34.990-04:00You truly bless me.You truly bless me.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275456448997619944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-10910743198276656012009-06-11T05:43:52.321-04:002009-06-11T05:43:52.321-04:00I find myself at times putting on a front when I a...I find myself at times putting on a front when I am having a really bad day with my husband's drinking. I'm extra funny, extra kind, extra goofy just to avoid the pain. This sounds like a great book!Ginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11927048986907155785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-36712186081902916592009-06-11T05:31:27.216-04:002009-06-11T05:31:27.216-04:00Great line there Paula, "Pearls are made by i...Great line there Paula, "Pearls are made by injured lives." Yes, we are always a work in progress, always something to adjust. Blessings dear one and I continue to pray for you and a job!Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-40006058590633324382009-06-11T05:22:15.418-04:002009-06-11T05:22:15.418-04:00It is rewarding to be reminded - sounds strange, d...It is rewarding to be reminded - sounds strange, doesnt it. I was the one on the fantasy trip and did all the clowning around. Fantasy trip is gone, I still sometimes clown around, however I get aware of it very quickly and adjust accordingly. We always will be work in progress and it feels good taking the lead and not being controlled by the past anymore. It is worth all the work. Pearls are made by injured lifes. LovePaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07241317042459836045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-25712446126975614672009-06-11T05:19:19.042-04:002009-06-11T05:19:19.042-04:00Hey Silver, appreciate your visit. Glad that you ...Hey Silver, appreciate your visit. Glad that you did pass on by, thank you! Blessings.<br /><br />Shadow-Yeah, I too believe everyone in life have some kind of triggers to set them off about something. Good or bad. Appreciate you dear one!Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4349731646274826596.post-60446143866700059352009-06-11T05:12:14.195-04:002009-06-11T05:12:14.195-04:00triggers will always remain (or so i believe, sinc...triggers will always remain (or so i believe, since triggers can also bring back good memories). it's the reactions that can be changed and controlled. and aware of these one must always be... another great post!Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.com