Some times I feel I get close to victory in one struggling area of my journey only to come up short. Many times over. Bringing on the feelings of shame and failure. Being extremely self-critical of myself.
At those times I am continually reminded by my t. and many of you wonderful bloggy people when I get this way to be “gentle with myself.” Everyone is not the same in their brokenness and healing process. Time. Time. Time.
My question to you.....
Is your definition of being gentle with yourself basically the same as mine?
Not to beat up on yourself for not living up to expectations. Whether yours or others? That you are taking too long to defeat your monster? Are you able to extend grace to yourself at those times? Be merciful not only to yourself, but if you have a little one, them too?
Please feel free to share.....
JBR God doesn't see you as a failure. Whoever taught you that growing up, they had there own pain. You must be able to validate yourself if you want to thrive in a physical reality where people and things are constantly changing. Needing others to validate you is exhausting and it never works for very long. You have to see yourself as worthy of what you want, by virtue of who you are, before you can have what you want.
ReplyDeleteI kind of remember when I am trying hard but miss the mark, that even professional baseball players miss the ball most of the time, not to mention that great golfers usually hit above par. JBR I think if you can celebrate your good intentions and continue to believe that eventually you will defeat your enemy with Gods help. Then you will. If you give yourself permission to believe in yourself, even if you haven’t changed your behavior yet, you will stop beating yourself up as often. God Bless.
I pretty much go with the flow. I cuss myself out at times. After the whole thing is over and I've pretty much calmed down I'm able to reason much better. Good question and good post. - Jackie -
ReplyDeleteOne thing that I do every day, is to make checklists, and as I check them off, at the end of the day, I can always look and see what I accomplished. You never feel like a failure, when you're looking at a checked off list;) Anything you didn't get to, goes on the list tomorrow...you can't lose!;)
ReplyDeleteYOU'VE GOT SOME GOOD DEFINITIONS FROM YOUR READERS JBR. COMBINATION OF ALL SORTS. SOUNDS PRACTICAL TO ME.
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