"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Thursday, August 19, 2010

METHOD OF SURVIVAL


For many of us we had a method of survival while growing up in a broken, abusive, neglected home. Many of us were verbally, emotionally, physically and sexually abused and battered. We put our guard up. We closed down. Closed off. Built up walls to protect ourselves. We lost ourselves because of the abuse.

But for those of us who are on our journey to freedom, we are finding out that we are allowed to express who we are. Who we were intended to be by God. We are stepping out. Taking chances despite the fears of being hurt or rejected. We are letting ourselves become human again. Hallelujah!


The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. —Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Many of us grew up in situations that required us to be constantly on our guard. We became so keenly attuned to the people around us and how to please them or avoid their anger that we lost contact with our inner messages. Rather than developing skills for drawing upon our inner resources, we developed skills for looking outward and reacting to whatever confronted us. This method of survival may have been necessary in the past while we were under stress, but it doesn't allow us any rest or the possibility of simply following what we know and feel is right.

We are learning to know what we think and feel and to express it, even if it isn't always what others want to hear. We can be spontaneous now because we have room for mistakes in our lives. Our relationships are more reliable, and we have more energy from sincerity than from always striving to make a good appearance.

Today, it is more important for me to be sincere than to be on my guard.

Hazelden Foundation.

9 comments:

  1. Thank you for posting this! I enjoy the encouraging words you share a lot! Take care! *hugs* <3

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  2. I completely agree- in order to recover we must allow ourselves to be ourselves and ditch those old methods of survival for a more beneficial one.

    Wishing you well,
    NOS

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  3. Okay, this is just surreal.
    Seems as if the Lord has us sharing an IV of
    His healing balm right now.
    Everything you've posted has been like
    a shot of B-12 to my soul!
    Everything so "thunk!" right into my raw places.
    And bringing such LIFE!!!
    Oh, thank you for sharing so honestly and openly the life poured out to you.
    You have no idea the fruit coming from your journey. You're gonna laugh out loud for joy some day when you look back and see the HUGE CROP of life that grew as a result of your facing your stuff and walking on through to the other side.
    "OVERCOMER" will be one sweet tatoo on your soul and it will shine like the stars:)
    -Jennifer

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  4. Jen you are just too funny and such an encouragement, thank you very much! I know you responded the same from my previous post as well. I do not know. It is only the Holy Spirit putting on my heart what to blog these days. We are definitley going in a different direction. He has the reigns.....

    Denise, always there. I can always expect a very nice comment from you thank you.

    IK, glad to see you again. I know you have been out of commission, thank you for your comments.

    Ahhhh NOS, you are truly special as well! You are a delight whether you think so or not. Thank you as well.

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  5. What awesome quote...the truth really does set us free....

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  6. I can relate to this post so much. It took a lot of time to regain that spontaneity. God gave me strength, He gave me acceptance. I was allowed to be me again.

    Blessings and hugs
    Lyn

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  7. those are brave steps...even those that were never in an abusive home seem to strugle with this these days...nice post.

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  8. When I read this...I thought of the phrase...free to be me...yep...that's what I want...Great post JBR...

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