"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Friday, October 15, 2010

SADNESS


I am not trying to remain on a "downer" theme these past two post. That is not my intention. I just would like to try to encourage any others who suffer as I do with sadness.

Throughout most my life it has seemed that I have had a heaviness of sadness upon me. The sadness then became a part of me.

Trauma and stress in our lives may have an adverse effect on us all differently in the form of sadness and grief. For some of us sadness may last a day. A week. But for the prolong periods, sadness can certainly weigh our spirit down and block the joy that God intended for us.

As my journey enables God and I to peel off another layer as I work through my pain, I believe my healing will one day override my sadness. Yes!!! Yes!!! Yes!!! One day I will wake up and BOOM the cloud had lifted! Hallelujah!!!!


Ultimately, to grieve our losses means to surrender to our feelings.

So many of us have lost so much, have said so many good byes - have been through so many changes. We may want to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn't good, but because we have had so much change, so much loss.

Sometimes, when we are in the midst of pain and grief, we become shortsighted, like members of a tribe described in the movie Out of Africa.

"If you put them in prison," one character said, describing this tribe, "they die."

"Why?" asked another character.

"Because they can't grasp the idea that they'll be let out one day. They think it's permanent, so they die."

Many of us have so much grief to get through. Sometimes we begin to believe grief, or pain, is a permanent condition.

The pain will stop. Once felt and released, our feelings will bring us to a better place than where we started. Feeling our feelings, instead of denying or minimizing them, is how we heal from our past and move forward into a better future. Feeling our feelings is how we let go.

It may hurt for a moment, but peace and acceptance are on the other side. So is a new beginning.

God, help me fully embrace and finish my endings, so I may be ready for my new beginnings.

Hazelden Foundation



22 comments:

  1. I believe my healing will one day override my sadness. Yes!!! Yes!!! Yes!!! One day I will wake up and BOOM the cloud had lifted! Hallelujah!!!


    God, help me fully embrace and finish my endings, so I may be ready for my new beginnings.

    AMEN AMEN AMEN

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  2. As we await the healing we have have to be able to move about freely with our feelings. Being trenched in sadness is not good neither is moving past it too quickly. I just wrote a post yesterday about change and being ready. I am happy you remain open to HIS glory and remain faithful to hold you up when your sadness is here. Take your time as the journey will prove important. Of that I am sure. Hugs. Tammy

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  3. Hoping you are able to upgrade your everyday joy component!!! ((JBR)))

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  4. Yes many are in sadness, good that you can share with us
    kim

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  5. ((JBR)), don't worry about being a downer, this is something we all need to hear and this is your safe place to talk about how you are really feeling.

    Thinking of you.

    Love, C

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  6. Keeping you in prayers JBR! I see those layers coming off and though the process is painful, I know a new JBR will emerge! Strong and a new creation in the Lord's power! Have a great weekend.

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  7. Because they can not grasp the idea that they'll be let out one day. They think it's permanent so they die....wow a very profound statement. And it goes along so well with a message I heard a man of God give this morning. He talked about the importance of visualization. The ability to see what does not yet appear. Is that not FAITH? Faith that a better day is coming keeps us from dying in the midst of pain, distress, or turmoil. Keep the FAITH JBR! He has come that you might have life the overflow. Indeed you shall recover ALL the enemy has attempted to steal, kill, and destroy in your life. An overflow of love, joy, peace and so much more.

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  8. It's so nice to hear a hopeful voice in the morning. (Well, actually it's nice at any time.) I believe you are working so hard that your "cloud" will be lifting any day now. But maybe it will be more gradual, and then one day you'll notice that you're not particularly sad. That's my hope for you.

    Wishing you well,
    NOS

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  9. Thank you for sharing this, JBR. Your strength in the midst of your darkness is helping me continue to take tiny steps in the midst of my own darkness.

    God, help me fully embrace and finish my endings, so I may be ready for my new beginnings. - AMEN.

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  10. Praying you will hear that "BOOM" really soon...

    There is an old song that says...

    "Love will roll the clouds away"...that is the truth...

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  11. My wish for you is that someday your sadness will lift. This is also my hope for me.

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  12. May God continue to strengthen you and heal you JBR. The cloud of sadness, may that disapate. God Bless.

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  13. Yes, praise God, the sadness will go away.

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  14. you know what...one of the reasons i come here JBR is that you are real...and even though it gets grey at times...you still strive...

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  15. "Ultimately, to grieve our losses means to surrender to our feelings."

    Wow JBR.. I teared up with emotions just reading your post. So profoundly REAL.I'm beginning to understand the anatomy of pain. Medterms.com defines anatomy as:

    The word "anatomy" comes from the Greek ana- meaning up or through + tome meaning a cutting.

    Emotional pain - from many avenues - tends to pile on top of each other. It becomes a highly concentrated thot and it must be allowed to rise - through the layers - if it is to be cut away - let go - healed. This is the natural anatomy of pain and grief. But there is also a supernatural touch that has set many captives free. I have experienced both. They are both REAL.

    The natural deliverance serves to help you understand your pain so that you can help others walk through like pain. The supernatural deliverance serves to build your trust and relationship with the God of Grace and Mercy. God expects us to be open to both. His way, His plan, His timing. He will use both to peel back the layers.

    I've just tuned into your site a few post ago - so I don't know the history of your previous sharing. But I sense that you understand what I'm saying and you are an OPEN soul - allowing God to do His perfect work in and through you. I celebrate your journey. I join hearts and hands with you in the quest for total freedom in Christ Jesus - who came to set the captives FREE - and he who is free, is free indeed.

    Help us Lord to seek your face - to rise to the surface and fully experience our pain - that we might walk freely into your perfect plan for our lives - use our pain to offer healing to those that come behind us. May you, O Lord, find us faithful. Cause us keep walking - even if we stumble because of our hidden pain. When we don't know what the next step is to be - help us walk towards what we know to be true - that YOU O Lord, will never ever leave us or forsake us. You hold our hands and lift us higher than we ever dreamed - Help us soar to new heights - in Jesus name! Amen

    Loved this post JBR - and thanks for all your encouragement on the bridge. I'm honored to sit a while with you and feel the work that the Lord is doing in and through your life.

    Blessings and Hugs,
    princess warrior in boots <")>><

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  16. It's okay to share with us about your sadness... it's perfectly fine to let emotional pain out... we are here to share and be supportive of each other. We all have those days... It happened to me a week ago, for two days I was down and tearful. Prayer and workout helped me, plus talking to my best friends.

    (((( hugs ))))) and praying for you.

    Doris

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  17. Wow, this post really helped me! Thank you!!!!
    I hope that soon your sadness will ease. Sending {{{HUGS}}}

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  18. You can!!! And you will!!!! Amen. :)

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  19. "We may want to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn't good, but because we have had so much change, so much loss". This really struck me. I had never thought of it this way. I really dislike change even though I know it will happen.

    Sadness has always been a part of my life as well but until a few years ago I didn't realize where it was stemming from. I don't think that what you are writing is a downer. It is where you are at in this particular point in time. I'd rather read the real thing. It helps me understand what I feel.

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  20. I've found myself awash in grief this morning
    and this post is the life preserver the Lord
    placed in front of me!
    Thank you so much.
    Yes, the pain will end and the sadness will
    someday be gone.
    We'll feel these feelings and healing will come.
    (Can't heal what we won't feel, right?)
    Thank you for this,
    Jennifer

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  21. JBR, yes it takes so much practice and the awareness to hold on. Surely we all have a different story yet the grieving process is a long one. It passes though. Love and hugs

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