I am my worst enemy when it comes to putting unrealistic expectations on myself. Demanding only the best. Only because I want to to be liked and not be rejected. And in my stinkin' thinkin', that requires to be flawless. Oddly though, I only do this in certain areas. It is not all across the board.
I have noticed this demand for the best shows up especially when I am trying to impress someone. Even though I "can" hold high expectations for others, I find I give them more mercy when they do not live up to them. Giving them far more "grace" than I give little JBR.
My little girl received from her dad great expectations to accomplish a task on the first try. Only to find out if not successful, daddy was disappointed. Casting doubt and shame that little JBR would amount to or could do anything. Oh how she wanted to please and be approved by her daddy. She is slowly learning and accepting this is not true.
I really am not the controlling type. Of people that is. I am not that brave to do so. For fear of rejection. I am the opposite. I would people please. I would change for others. But, I do try and control my surroundings around me. Circumstances, situations.
Freedom from bondage continues to remain in my line of sight. To one day break away from all these rules and regulations I have put upon myself. The lies and beliefs I have grown to accept as truth. To have them eventually put to death. And to out-and-out Be Set Free!
It's a hard lesson to learn - that regardless of what we do or how we do it or what we say or how we look.......we won't be able to please everyone. And the relief comes when you realize the only one you should try to please is God.
ReplyDeleteI'M LIKING THIS POST JBR. WORDS RING LOUD AND CLEAR. PLEASING PEOPLE IS A IDENTITY CRUSHER.
ReplyDeleteGreat Post, JBR. Love the little ducky.
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Tammy
Hi hon,
ReplyDeleteWanting to be accepted is part of our nature that God gave us and since we are created in His image then this is also part of His nature. He craves and wants fellowship with us; a working relationship.
I am sorry that your daddy didn't give you the approval that you needed. It is hard for a child to achieve perfection especially on the first try. I must say that I love how you are taking how you were moulded and you are using this to glorify your heavenly Daddy.
Keep moving forward hon.
Hugs,
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