My morning walk this morning I "felt" the Lord revealed something significant to me. Even though I keep on saying I suffer from people pleasing/co-dependency, I have always felt something is missing to this puzzle with me!
I may be totally off base, but when I think of people pleasing, that goes across the board broadly. With more than one person. That is not so for me. Never has been. I always just seek out one individual and then I become defensive if I feel others are invading my space with this one person!
Even though the topic of the lack of nurturing has come up in my t. sessions, I am inclined to believe now that this is truly a significant part to my puzzle. Since I did not get the proper nurturing as a child, I may be seeking out that nurturing which comes out in the sick way of trying to people please, but with only one.
Have t. today, so this will be good to discuss further.
Will be intersting to see what you discover. Meanwhile here is a scripture verse:We serve a God who comforts the depressed and gives supernatural peace to those who feel troubled
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You are healing more each day, God is teaching you well. Prayers and love to you.
ReplyDeleteProbably a signficant part as you state JBR. Hang in there.
ReplyDeletethat sound right to me too. i certainly don't want to please everyone, only certain people. with some, quite frankly, i can be hard as stone...
ReplyDeleteIt's certainly understandable that when people-pleasers grow up, they do so with a fully crystallized program that to be good enough they must comply with the wishes and demands of others. Praying for you! God Bless
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ReplyDeleteMay God give you the strength to say 'no.' Remembering you in my thoughts.
Be firm and strong. The one who is in you is greater than the one in this world.
God bless.
Joy and courage,
Susan
Sweetie I pray the revelation that God has shown you will help you. Praying with you.
ReplyDeleteIn Romans 12:1-2 it tells us the steps of how to know God's will for your life: "Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God - this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will."
ReplyDeleteMay God be with you on your healing journey.
ReplyDeleteKeep praying dear, don't loose heart.
BM
It will get better as you become more secure in who you are...the person GOD created you to be.
ReplyDeleteBlessings, hugs, and prayers, andrea
Sounds like a breakthrough for sure! As God's love is infinite, so you will find unconditional love from others and be able to give unconditional love. Exclusivity is not security....last week's struggles must have been worth it! Take care JBR.
ReplyDeleteYes does sound promising what you discovered.
ReplyDeleteBeen there, done that. When all of our energy is focused on one person...I call it idol worship. At least it was for me. Thank God He helped me get over that! It was not pleasing to Him, and it was eating away at me until there was nothing left for God. I had to completely cut the ties with this person. I hope your situation isn't as far-gone as mine was...
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate! I thought I was the only one. I do believe God and my therapy are working on some of the broken pieces. Good luck in therapy today. Hope all goes well.
ReplyDeleteI know the poem below this post. I've heard it many times about if a child lives with.....It's sooo true. And what you wrote in this post....I really appreciate your being so open. I think admitting our 'truth' eventually frees us. Stay safe ok. Sarah
ReplyDeleteThat's an interesting theory. Well, that awareness can only lead to more healing. I hope your T session went well.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your kind support and caring at my blog with my recent struggles. I've got a little gift of gratitude for you there, if you want to come by and look when you get a chance. I hope you have a blessed Christmas without any triggers and without too much stress, my dear!
You are totally right, when you don't or can't get the love you need, you tend to go find it from else where. You said something that triggered some thoughts of what is perhaps really happening to me. Why I am the way I am! Seeking love in all the wrong places.
ReplyDeleteJBR, I will be praying for you. Hugs.
These comments above are all helpful, and show that lots of people have struggles in this same area, people pleasing. It's really God that I want to please... It's like with so many things...I know that, but I want to KNOW that I KNOW that, every day! I know you do too.
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ReplyDelete((((Hugz))) People pleasers or as I call the disease to please. Girlfriend, been there, done that, and oneday I decided I had a choice to no longer go there. It's a one day at a time thing, sure I fail at times, but I pick myself up and keep making the effort to always remind myself the only person I have to please is my God because at the end it will just be he and I face to face.
Luv ya Lorie
I've been there so I know exactly what you are writing about... keep the faith, and take your time in the healing process. Hugs!!!
ReplyDeleteMaybe God be with you on your healing path.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for your kind words. You are very welcome on my blog.
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i believe we spend our lives trying to recreate that which we didn't get. I know I look for that nurturing too, that hand to squeeze mine and the arms to hold me. It is never quiet what I am missing so I keep searching
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