"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Tuesday, January 05, 2010


I could not have found a more timely "Dear Jesus" then the following. I marvel at the certain words the author uses here, as some were the exact words and sentiment I used on my recent post "Admitting I Am Weak."


I desperately want to believe that my mistakes can somehow be used for good in Your kingdom. The truth is, I hate making mistakes! This attitude can easily translate into hating myself for having messed up. When I let my mind run freely at such a time, I find myself fantasizing about what might have been-if only I had acted or chosen differently. I definitely need a strong dose of Your transforming grace!


The best strategy for accepting yourself, even when you make mistakes, is living close to Me. This nearness helps you see things from My perspective. You tend to view yourself as someone who should be almost perfect, making very few errors. My perspective is quite different: I see you as My beloved child-weak in many ways, prone to wandering from Me. However, your weakness and waywardness cannot diminish My constant Love for you. Moreover, My infinite wisdom enables Me to take your errors and weave them into an intricate work that is good.

You need to accept not only yourself but also the choices you have made. Fantasizing about having done things differently is a time wasting trap. It is impossible to live close to Me while you're indulging in such unreality. The more you fantasize, the further from Me you wander. When you realize this has happened, turn around and run back to Me! Take time to talk with Me and relax in My Presence. Your perfectionist tendencies will dissolve as you soak in My transforming grace. (Sarah Young)

I cannot tell you how terrible of a stronghold it is to feel you have to be perfect. The critical and judgemental spirit of my father cutting me down verbally and my mother who would never let me learn how to do anything, and would always do it for me, had helped shaped my thinking of having to be a perfect person in order to be accepted.

I desire to soak in God's transforming grace and grow closer to Him! To accept I am human, and not get bent out of shape when I make a mistake.

As long as I believe THAT I AM NOT A MISTAKE....then I am okay!!!!


  1. JBR good post. Yes You're Not a Mistake. You're Meant To Be. God can take your "mess" and use it to bring healing to others. Be encouraged to seek God for healing and to walk in your divine destiny. You will understand that God has a purpose for your life. You are not a mistake, you are meant to be. God Bless.

  2. Thank you, Real friend. My biological father wanted a son, but oops, I was born a girl and there the story of my life began until the Lord came to my rescue. YES, IT WAS NO MISTAKE THAT I WAS BORN A GIRL. God bless.

  3. we make mistakes, we are not mistakes. Mistakes are actions, verbs. We are people, nouns. See the difference?

    I heartily suggest you find away to exercise another verb darlin'...laughing.

  4. Most people are not sure what happiness really is. Many say that money would make them happy. But it’s not money at all. People don’t want money! They want what money can BUY. They remember that buying new things makes them feel happy, but this is only one form of happiness. True happiness comes when you can make a difference in the life of another person and realize how much it meant to them.

    Lending someone a helping hand not only brightens their day, but you will be able to reap the effects of, if only for a brief moment, true happiness.

  5. stuck-in-the-middleJanuary 05, 2010

    JBR hang in there! Great message.

  6. Great thoughts and most encouraging!

  7. We make mistakes but we arent mistakes. Wanna be perfect? How does that looks like? You are enough as you are.

  8. Wow. Thank you....from someone who is great at pretending that everything is great!!!

  9. I'm glad that in our weakness, He is our strength. God bless.

  10. just found your blog...wonderful...freeing.

  11. Thank you for continuing to be real sweetie! Have a great day. this is a great post of honesty!

  12. You are not a mistake.

  13. the pressure of trying to be perfect. i've felt that often enough too...

  14. JBR, oh my goodness, I read your blog after I posted mine. How amazing that the two work together. Mine is on how we are "special" that we matter. God loves us and he doesn't make mistakes. We are all designed for HIS purpose!HUGS!

  15. I am still learning to throw the need to be perfect out the window....it is really over-rated. All it got me was heartache and pain. I, now long to do the best I can do...and it does NOT have to be perfect. However, I would be lying if I said, I did not struggle with it from time to time. I will always be a work in progress.

  16. JBR,

    Just reading the words as though they came from God directly can heal those perfectionist desires we all have. Thanks for posting this!

    Love and Hugs ~ Kat

  17. No one is perfect, but God loves us just as we are.....He forgives all our mistakes just as we forgive others who have hurt us. Forgiveness
    is a gift I have given myself and it has brought me liberation and freedom, wonderful feeling.......:-) Hugs

  18. You are Being Real (most of the time--grin!) and there is NO mistake in that, Dear.

  19. Only God doesn't make mistakes. As hard as it is to take. Just remember you are just what God wants. No mistake!

  20. Oh sweetie, you do not have to tell me. I tried my whole life to please my father. He constantly cut me down with his words and the knife would go right into my heart. I know from where my perfection comes from. I could always make the honor roll but if he saw an A- or B on the grades I was cut down to the bone. I was always trying to do something to please and make him proud. Wash the car...he'd complain I did not wash the white~walls on the tires. I polished all his shoes one time and he complained that the soles were dirty.

    In God and a Face to Face with my father I have learned to put it behind me. That doesn't mean that voice in my head doesn't rise up every once in a while but through God we handle it.

    I pray complete peace for you my dear!

  21. Soaking in that wonderful grace with you...thank you, Jesus!

  22. you are definitely not a mistake. great post...Hugs to you. Sarah