I have to constantly revisit this topic of being myself and no one else. This is such a struggle for me. I feel I am really getting to the core of my pain on this one, as I find myself breaking down and crying uncontrollably more now when I find myself battling the every day competition in my mind of others. I am just so very tired of being in competition with others. People pleasing. I am tired of allowing others control of me in order to be liked. I am just so very tired of trying to be someone I am not.
So, my desire is to ask God daily to slay any giants, as David did, in my life that come against the plan of God for me.
My desire is to follow the Spirit!
I want Him to take away the desire to please others and to have my heart only to please Him. Wow, it seem like a tall order for me. A very frightening one as well. Because people pleasing is all I have ever known to survive and gain my self worth from.
But with God anything is possible.
And right now, this stronghold is tearing me a up inside emotionally and I need His divine intervention so very bad!!!!
The only way I am able to have a happy and (relatively) stress free life is to not care about what others think. You are your own person with your own qualities, likes and dislikes. The HECK with what other people think. They either like you for YOU or not. If they don't, they are not important people, they are petty people. You do not have to please anyone but yourself.
ReplyDeleteLindsey Petersen
I have a difficult time not being a people pleaser myself. I tell myself that I'm only going to look out for me, but I continue to fall into the pattern of wanting others to accept me and praise me for what I can do for them. It's a constant struggle. We'll make it! We just need to keep on keeping on sister! Have a great day!
ReplyDeleteYou go girl. You're getting better every day. Hang in there.
ReplyDeleteSo, my desire is to ask God daily to slay any giants, as David did, in my life that come against the plan of God for me.
ReplyDeleteamen amen amen
Praying GOD will rip down the stronghold and set you free....free to enjoy life with HIM!
ReplyDeleteHugs, blessings, and prayers,
andrea
In addition to our prayers for assistance, it often helps me to also pray for faith and to try to focus on how that assistance has always been there for me in the past. Take care!
ReplyDeleteGreat message. I'm still trying to figure out who I am, exactly, below the layers of defenses that I now affectionately call my character defects. But I have faith that God will reveal to me what I need to know when I'm ready. Till then, I'll at least take pleasure in a few small things, like that adorable photo. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteKeep your eyes on Him, not the world.
ReplyDeleteJBR, I know this feeling as I am going through the same process. I think there is a lot of self-discovery we both need to do to discover who we are and then to be that person. I know I constantly feel like I am a liquid being poured into different shaped cups or molds for each human interaction, this is ruining my life and I am sick of it. I know you are sick of it too and that we can both find the peace that comes with being ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI struggle with this too. You are NOT alone.
ReplyDeleteIt is difficult to not fall into the trap of pleasing others - but I believe you are on the right track ...
Casting the WHOLE of your CARE on Him for He cares about you affectionately and cares about you watchfully. 1 Pe. 5:7
Love your blog - I'm ACOA too.
You will guard her and keep her in PERFECT peace wose mind {both its inclination and it's character} is STAYED on You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You. Is. 26:3
Praying for you ...
Be strong in His power. I know with Him, you will overcome! Take care JBR.
ReplyDeleteI love the photo and the quote it contains.
ReplyDeleteIn your corner...believing He will help you get there.
ReplyDeletean area I really need to do a lot of work.
ReplyDeleteI am the president of the I care what people think club...
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Still a people pleaser myself I found its takes time to become myself. Yet it is ok because I have started this journey to myself and that is all what matters. Lately not so harsh on myself anymore hence I can let it go. It works if you work it! Hugs to you, my friend. Thanks for your support and prayers. It surely has helped.
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you dare to be yourself. You have great value in my world. Your courage to face your challenges is always an inspiration to me.
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