"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Tuesday, October 12, 2010


You know even this late in my journey I still am over come with grief. Why surprised? I should not be. Makes sense. I am still dealing with past pain. Still dealing with past hurts that I have never grieved about the first time.

Continuing on my journey getting in touch with some past pain, I can only expect to grieve. Different levels of grief. Different levels of pain that I will be going through to break through to the other side.

As the devotional states below.....grieving is certainly exhausting and demanding. It can take its toll on us. That is why we need to take the time and hibernate, be good to ourselves, recover, be replenished have God minister to our pain.

The process of adapting to change and loss takes energy. Grief is draining, sometimes exhausting. Some people need to "cocoon for transformation," in Pat Carnes's words, while going through grief.

We may feel more tired than usual. Our ability to function well in other areas of our life may be reduced, temporarily. We may want to hide out in the safety of our bedroom.

Grief is heavy. It can wear us down.

It's okay to be gentle with ourselves when we're gong through change and grief. Yes, we want to maintain the disciplines of recovery. But we can be compassionate with ourselves. We do not have to expect more from ourselves than we can deliver during this time. We do not even have to expect as much from ourselves as we would normally and reasonably expect.

We may need more rest, more sleep, more comfort. We may be more needy and have less to give. It is okay to accept ourselves, and our changed needs, during times of grief, stress, and change.

It is okay to allow ourselves to cocoon during times of transformation. We can surrender to the process, and trust that a new, exciting energy is being created within us.

Before long, we will take wings and fly.

God, help me accept my changed needs during times of grief, change, and loss.

Hazelden Foundation


  1. i think the 'grief' will always be there. after all, what happened was and always will be a part of our life. however, the effect it has on us lessens with time, AS we deal with those emotions. as our thinking changes, so do our reactions, after all... nice post, very gentle to the soul!

  2. great post and very apropo. i am working wiht a young man on the grief and loss surrounding the loss of his legs...i agree with shadow as well...i dont think it is something one will grown out of...

  3. Thank you both for sharing. Always appreciate the input I receive here. Blessings.

  4. Another wonderful Heartfelt and Honest post! You have to first 'grieve' before you can really move on. You are doing just fine, this is all the process we must go through to truly heal!! So proud of you & your journey!!!!

    Blessings & Big Hug, xoxoxo

  5. i'm terribly sorry you are under such a cloud of grief. i
    have been there myself, and it is so tiring. thank the
    Lord it doesn't last forever.

    one day you will look around and say to yourself, "i
    feel peaceful and happy today." we just never know
    when that will happen.

    i think too many people try to avoid grief and instead
    perpetuate it longer that if we had yielded to it for a


  6. Excellent post, JBR. The great thing is that grief is limited and will have an end but we will have joy forever with the Lord. I agree that it's important to treat ourselves gently while grieving. This fragility we often feel is a gift from God though we may not think so at the time. His strength is made perfect through weakness and it is easier for Him to work through those who admit their great need for Him than those who think they can take care of themselves. We have to lean on Him and trust Him. The Lord has our best interests at heart. God bless you, JBR!

  7. Grief is funny sometimes. Sometimes when you feel you are "over" something it comes and creeps right back in. I'm not sure if people can ever overcome true grief, but I know for sure that it can fade substantially to the point where you don't think about it every day, every week, or even every month.

    I'm sorry you're feeling down and tired. Feel better.

    Wishing you well,

  8. This is beautiful! I'm sending you tonnes of hugs, my sweet friend! Stay safe, happy and peaceful. :)

  9. PRAISE GOD that our grief is only here on this earth but heaven will be filled with joy and laughter....NO GRIEF OR PAIN!



  10. Grief is hard work sometimes.
    Thankfully, you don't have to
    go it alone.
    Your shepherd invites you
    to take His yoke
    even as you grieve together.
    He will watch over the timing
    and process
    and protect and defend
    you through it all
    and take you safely to the end
    of this season
    and deliver you with joy
    into the next one.
    He is with you even in your grief.
    He understand it; is good at it.
    Knows it intimately Himself.
    Trust Him in and with it, sweetie.
    Loving and pulling for you,

  11. I really like that phrase "cocoon for transformation". Being kind to ourselves is important at all times, but especially when we are in pain and grieving. Take good care JBR xx

  12. beautiful words at a time when I need them the most. Thank you so much for your visit and kind comments...When I was with my mom it was amazing how she could still pull the strings even in dementia to control me. After all the work I’ve done, I still go back to being a child that is hurt, lost and tramatized...

  13. I keep forgetting that a lot of my problems come from grief. Grief is tough. Hugs.

  14. Grief is so necessary, exhausting and liberating. Still hits me on occassions I do not expect. You ahve come so far. Warm hugs