It never ceases to amaze me how I can see through some people and predict their next move, know them pretty well. Then at the same time I cannot see some obvious things within me that others notice. Go figure.
I really like what this quote says.
"There is a twilight zone in our hearts that we ourselves cannot see. Even when we know quite a lot about ourselves-our gifts and weaknesses, our ambitions and aspirations, our motives and our drives-large parts of ourselves remain in the shadow of consciousness. This is a very good thing. We will always remain partially hidden to ourselves. Other people, especially those who love us, can often see our twilight zones better than we ourselves can. The way we are seen and understood by others is different from the way we see and understand ourselves. We will never fully know the significance of our presence in the lives of our friends. That's a grace, a grace that calls us not only to humility, but to a deep trust in those who love us. It is the twilight zones of our hearts where true friendships are born."
— Henri J.M. Nouwen
JBR: I think you are most blinded to your inner strength. You are a very strong person and determined - fighting through issues most people would not. Thank you for inspiring me.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it always the way it goes. A third person perspective will usually see things we can't because we are too involved. Does that make sense? IDK
ReplyDeleteThank you JBR.
ReplyDeleteBlessings!
I having been learning this fact through therapy. My t always sees things about myself that I've never really seen. God created us to be community. Which is the hard part :)
ReplyDeleteJBR, to me it is so very clear that you observe it this way. Over so many years we were focused on others to protect yourself, to be able to retreat as soon as something might be up in the air. Knowing everyone else better then we know ourselves is so very 'normal' from where we are coming! Now we get to know ourselves and it is a hard road. Yet we finally focus where the focus belongs: on ourselves. Love and hugs, Paula
ReplyDeleteHi JBR,
ReplyDeleteWe do not want to see ourselves for who we are, but on the other hand we are either quick to seeing others faults or elevate them above what they are.
Blessings
I love that quote by Henri J. Nouwen. The twilight zones of our hearts where true friendship is born...how romantic is that. :-)
ReplyDeleteSomething to think about.
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