I could sense in my Spirit many times, if I felt cornered and could not escape, when someone was approaching me to ask me to do something. I had already made up in my mind some excuse to avoid failure that would lead to shame.
The devotion below are for those who have trouble saying "no." Not out of fear like I. But in order to not offend "man." To people please.
This is beneficial for me as well. Instead of running out of fear, if I do not feel led to do something, then stay my ground and tell the individual "sorry, but no" face-to-face.
“Lord, the one you love is sick.’…Yet…he stayed where he was two more days.” John 11:1-6:(vv.3 and 6).
Martha and Mary sent a message to Jesus that their brother, Lazarus, was deathly ill. They wanted and expected Jesus to come to his bedside. But Jesus in effect said no. He had a sound reason for his decision.
On occasion we may decide that it is advantageous to say no to a request, even a reasonable one. With Jesus as our example, we can be assured that is acceptable. We are not obligated to say yes, just to make someone else feel good. Saying no may merely mean “In my opinion, granting your request would not be beneficial at this time.” We can say no without rejecting the personhood of the one making the request.
Our statement, “No, I don’t care to go out to dinner tonight” is not the same as “I don’t like to be in your company.” It does not mean that we do not care about children’s spiritual education if we say, “No, I will not teach first grade Sunday School this year.” We can say no and remain loving and caring people.
Lord, help me to remember that no is not a naughty word.
Teach me the healthy benefits of saying yes and no.
Copyright 2012 Joan C. Webb