I had an incident last week happen to me involving an individual I like and enjoy being around. There have been, in the past, a couple of misunderstandings among us that were so very innocent and unintentional. Well, one of those incidents has been forgotten. Unfortunately one was not. From the other party.
So, when I saw them last week, I was not well received. Taken off guard by their comments and the immediate wall that was put up by them. Ouch! I had no clue until our conversation began that they were still reliving the past incident. Up until that time I thought it was a done deal and forgotten about the whole thing. Well, apparently I may have been "done with it," but they were not.
With all that being said and not going further into detail, what I discovered as my therapist and I discussed yesterday is that apparently that individual and I are bringing out our little "hurt" girls. We are some how triggering one another.
That being said, I want to center only now and focus on the positives in how I am dealing with the incident as I heal.
What "I" can say is that:
*I have grown in understanding more now that there are broken and hurting people in the world. I was so shut off in my feelings in the past because of my own pain, I self absorbed myself and could not see others.
*I have grown in asking the Lord if I hold any bitterness or anger towards the person because how they reacted to me to take it.
*I still need growth in not blaming myself and taking on the responsibility of the other person's hurt, especially when I know I did not do anything at all intentionally.
That's the greatest picture ever Grace! Oh how I have learned from past experiences to "nip it in the bud" rather than carry around animosity or hurt feelings. God gives us the power within to communicate , forgive, and show love rather than let things build up or seek revenge!
ReplyDeleteBlessings sweet friend,
Denise
Bless you for showing grace.
ReplyDeleteIt is difficult to not feel hurt or angry when someone else is still carrying a grudge against you for something in the past, especially when it is something you thought was over and done with. Understanding how that other person feels makes it easier for you to let it go, though. I hope you both continue to heal so that your relationship can improve. Wishing you a peaceful weekend, Grace. :)
ReplyDeleteSuch a sign of growth for you. I am glad that I am able to watch you walk this path. I hope you have a wonderful weekend :)
ReplyDeleteYou are showing grace and love, and how beautiful it is.
ReplyDeleteHi JBR,
ReplyDeleteIt is a good thing to show grace and mercy to this individual. Some times it is a hard thing to do.
Have a blessed weekend.
Ken
Hi hon,
ReplyDeleteAs you grow and heal and start to notice things you didn't see before, you will be able to extend grace to those who are not as far along as you. It is a process that will come, so don't beat yourself up about it, just continue to seek Father and His loving hand.
Always covering you in prayer, dear one, and love.
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Such a deep post. I've visited here a few times in the past, but have not been here lately. Our stories are valuable. I appreciate reading this today.
ReplyDeleteThe more healing we receive for ourselves, the more healing grace we can pour into the wounds of another.
Shalom,
Lidia
Hi JBR,
ReplyDeleteunfortunately we can all bear grudges when something was not intentional. Sometimes it is just a case of different personalities and how one sounds to another person. If we know something is up we may have to deal with it there and then, or sometimes it may be the time to 'make no friends with an angry man'. God knows what is in each person's heart and whether the time is right to approach someone, and will enlighten us if we ask Him for wisdom. God bless.
Wow, this post really hit home with me...it is full of wisdom and insight, as well as digs deep into who we are. I am going through a similar situation and reading your post is helping me. Actually I'm going to share and bookmark. It is so beautiful to watch how you are growing. Thank you so much.
ReplyDeleteMadison:)
Madison, I am glad you were blessed by this post and are able to use it for your personal healing as well. Blessings.
DeleteYour growth is a wonderful thing.
ReplyDeleteI like your ability to see the positives growth in your life.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that happened but it is apparent you have grown and that is so wonderful
ReplyDeleteyou're inspiring my friend.
ReplyDeleteblessings!!