"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Saturday, May 23, 2009


In my journey, I am not only trusting God, but also know that God does not set a time table. He is very patient with us who are in recovery and who are truly trying to get well. Not saying that it is NOT difficult, which as we all know who struggle, how down-right painful recovery can be! But, at the same time, hard as it is to believe for some (I included), God is always, always, always with us !!! Quick fixes are hard to come by.

I would like to share an excerpt from NACR:

“This text states with great clarity two central truths which are critical to our survival in times like this. First, God has made a very specific promise to us. God says "I will be with you." This may not always be what we want. We may want God to take the floods of life away. We may want God to build dams upstream in life so that the danger of flood is diminished. But, God's promise is clear. I will be with you.

"When you pass through the waters, they will not sweep over you." God will protect us and see us through. There are times in recovery when there just doesn't seem to be any way to make it. Nothing is more painful in these times than to have someone who stands at a distance express optimism about our recovery in a way that minimizes the struggle. ["Oh, you're going to be fine. Stop worrying about it."] Conversely, nothing is more valuable in these times than to have someone with us who sees the danger clearly but who is able to be hopeful for us and protect us and see us through.”

Copyright Dale and Juanita Ryan


  1. "Nothing is more painful in these times than to have someone who stands at a distance express optimism about our recovery in a way that minimizes the struggle. ["Oh, you're going to be fine. Stop worrying about it."]"

    I can really relate to this. Sometimes I feel that people in my life don't really know how difficult it is for me.

  2. I will have something up on my blog later today for you. I am still working on it. So come by later.

  3. AD-Totally relate.


  4. Oh, everything will be fine--you'll see. Stop worrying about it!!!!!....WHAT? Was that ME said that? Holy crapola.

    Waiting to see Amy's Oooolala!

    The rest of today, I'll try to be real. And stay sober!

  5. Agree that it is so easy for people to make comments like "everything will be fine", but also believe that these comments are not meant to be "slighting" in any way.It is very hard for people to truly understand until they have walked the walk. This does not take away from their sympathy, just makes it sympathy and not empathy. Am here for you. Hugs.

  6. I hate when that happens also. Some people are so insensative some times. Sorry that you're experiencing this JBR.

  7. Thanks for the quote. It is so true. We all need someone who will sit with us in the dark. I had a spiritual director who did that for me. When the clergy abuse scandal in the catholic church was going on, I was thrown into a crisis as I was forced to deal more with my past. During that crisis I also heard over and over again from people who did not want to believe the victims - oh get over it, it is in the past, why bring it up now?!
    Month after month my sp. director sat with me as I cried and yelled and whispered my way through the pain. I started writing my book then, and he read every page and he encouraged and he prayed for me and he accepted me as I was. God was with me then in the person of my director. He gave me a safe place to go where I could be Real. And I could heal. We all need someone like that.

  8. Colleen-How very fortunate and by the Grace of God you had such a wonderful understanding SD to feel safe with during your painful time. This is so wonderful to read, thank you for sharing dear!

    Dee Dee-A lot of the time people are just ignorant to the fact as they cannot deal with their own pain themselves.

    Karen-True, it is easier to grasp what one is going through, if the other(s) have gone through the pain themselves.

    Stevie-Hope it is a good day for you dear!

  9. Nice to meet you. Thank YOU for being real!

  10. Sometimes, it's better to be "silent" than to say what is supposed to be an encouraging comment that actually hurts a person's feelings. Just to let that person knows that you are there to listen is an encouragement by itself without saying anything. God bless you.

  11. Thank you for stopping by. It was so nice to meet you. I so appreciate open and honest readers and will be praying for you as you journey

  12. "when you pass thru the waters I will be with you" I cannot express to you how much I have CLUNG with all I had to this scripture thru some VERY troubling times in my life...thank you for sharing your heart and this scripture today.

  13. Sometimes our friends just need a good slap in the face of reality when it comes to making remarks like that.

  14. stuck-in-the-middleMay 24, 2009

    JBR you are in my prayers.

  15. Thanks for sharing that. It is often hard for others to have compassion for what people of abuse have been through and no you can not just get over it. But God has your back :)