In my journey, I am not only trusting God, but also know that God does not set a time table. He is very patient with us who are in recovery and who are truly trying to get well. Not saying that it is NOT difficult, which as we all know who struggle, how down-right painful recovery can be! But, at the same time, hard as it is to believe for some (I included), God is always, always, always with us !!! Quick fixes are hard to come by.
I would like to share an excerpt from NACR:
“This text states with great clarity two central truths which are critical to our survival in times like this. First, God has made a very specific promise to us. God says "I will be with you." This may not always be what we want. We may want God to take the floods of life away. We may want God to build dams upstream in life so that the danger of flood is diminished. But, God's promise is clear. I will be with you.
"When you pass through the waters, they will not sweep over you." God will protect us and see us through. There are times in recovery when there just doesn't seem to be any way to make it. Nothing is more painful in these times than to have someone who stands at a distance express optimism about our recovery in a way that minimizes the struggle. ["Oh, you're going to be fine. Stop worrying about it."] Conversely, nothing is more valuable in these times than to have someone with us who sees the danger clearly but who is able to be hopeful for us and protect us and see us through.”
Copyright Dale and Juanita Ryan
"Nothing is more painful in these times than to have someone who stands at a distance express optimism about our recovery in a way that minimizes the struggle. ["Oh, you're going to be fine. Stop worrying about it."]"
ReplyDeleteI can really relate to this. Sometimes I feel that people in my life don't really know how difficult it is for me.
I will have something up on my blog later today for you. I am still working on it. So come by later.
ReplyDeleteAD-Totally relate.
ReplyDeleteAmy-Oooolala.
Oh, everything will be fine--you'll see. Stop worrying about it!!!!!....WHAT? Was that ME said that? Holy crapola.
ReplyDeleteWaiting to see Amy's Oooolala!
The rest of today, I'll try to be real. And stay sober!
Agree that it is so easy for people to make comments like "everything will be fine", but also believe that these comments are not meant to be "slighting" in any way.It is very hard for people to truly understand until they have walked the walk. This does not take away from their sympathy, just makes it sympathy and not empathy. Am here for you. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteI hate when that happens also. Some people are so insensative some times. Sorry that you're experiencing this JBR.
ReplyDeleteColleen-How very fortunate and by the Grace of God you had such a wonderful understanding SD to feel safe with during your painful time. This is so wonderful to read, thank you for sharing dear!
ReplyDeleteDee Dee-A lot of the time people are just ignorant to the fact as they cannot deal with their own pain themselves.
Karen-True, it is easier to grasp what one is going through, if the other(s) have gone through the pain themselves.
Stevie-Hope it is a good day for you dear!
Nice to meet you. Thank YOU for being real!
ReplyDeleteSometimes, it's better to be "silent" than to say what is supposed to be an encouraging comment that actually hurts a person's feelings. Just to let that person knows that you are there to listen is an encouragement by itself without saying anything. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for stopping by. It was so nice to meet you. I so appreciate open and honest readers and will be praying for you as you journey
ReplyDelete"when you pass thru the waters I will be with you" I cannot express to you how much I have CLUNG with all I had to this scripture thru some VERY troubling times in my life...thank you for sharing your heart and this scripture today.
ReplyDeleteSometimes our friends just need a good slap in the face of reality when it comes to making remarks like that.
ReplyDeleteJBR you are in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing that. It is often hard for others to have compassion for what people of abuse have been through and no you can not just get over it. But God has your back :)
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