"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Sunday, June 14, 2009

THERE'S NO CRYING UNDERWATER


This past week has been a bit rough for me. Have not really elaborated in a post here about specifics, except my usual trying to establish my boundaries and the rage within. It just has been too mentally exhausting to go into detail, so I just let it alone with the posts I have shared.

In doing so, last week I had to find some diversion in my life, as I was not coping very well. So when I found the time I hit the pool. It was suggested that screaming underwater helps a bit. I would suggest NOT doing that while there are people in the pool. It ain’t as sound proof as you think. What stares I received when I surfaced. I went back down and just laughed. (you can laugh underwater) It was too funny. One of the rare funny highlights I enjoyed. Also, you cannot cry underwater. Not that this comes easy to me in the first place, but I was hurting so bad and I had one of my emotional painful waves come upon me while swimming, I had no choice. To my discovery, tears and chlorine water ain’t a good mix either.

35 comments:

  1. AnonymousJune 14, 2009

    catchy title caught my eye. yes ture you cant cry under water

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  2. I'm glad you got a chance to laugh under water. We all need moments of laughter

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  3. I can identify with what you say, establishing boundaries is hard enough but when something crosses the fragile ones that exist the resulting anger and frustration can be destructive if you let it.
    Don't know about the underwater crying and screaming though... laughter is always good though :o)

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  4. Sometimes diversion is the only way to manage. When the pain is more than you can bear you have to find some way to handle it. I'm glad you found something that gives you some relief.

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  5. Glad you got to laugh!!

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  6. Tears and Chlorine are a bitter sweet mixture!! Glad you found the release in laughing under water. As you continue to heal the ability to cry will become easier, but never quite as easy as it is for most folks.
    This week I have practiced so many of my boundaries skills and have been able to shed many tears as GOD worked within my heart.
    You are in my prayers....blessings, andrea

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  7. JBR,

    I forgot to put the disclaimer that I screamed in the pool when I was by myself. That is too funny. I will make a note not to cry in chlorine or scream with others. Thanks for the tip :)

    On a more serious note, I am sorry to hear you had such a hard week. Your recent post reminded me how great the Boundaries book is. I'm thinking about revisiting it for a review.

    Blessings and Hugs,

    Tammy

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  8. [[[JBR]]]], just giving you those hugs back! Thank you. I'm glad you found a way of releasing humor under the water :) Ouch! tears and chlorine? It feels like I could feel the "sting".

    Keeping you in prayers. God bless.

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  9. I found myself crying in the shower this morning after a 'memory nightmare' as I call them, and so this post really caught my attention. I didn't like that the tears were washed away so easily, almost like they weren't happening. It's hard enough to cry about the memories, I don't need the help.
    And I too read and loved the Boundaries book, I gave it to someone in a similar situation to me but your posts have reminded me I should probably read it again.
    Bless you for having the courage to work out your faith here for us to share! You don't know how many times I've read something that has helped me!

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  10. Thanks for the reminder of the Boundaries book. I should read it again also. My husband has been crossing my boundaries big time lately until I yelled at him a few days ago. It must be a time of chaos for many of us right now. Maybe it is something in the air or the water. Laughter is good. I often watch things that I know will make me laugh and sometimes shows that I know will let me cry without having to explain the tears to anyone else. Safe hugs to you.

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  11. Oh what a great thought! I love swimming and it is such an emotional release for me..... My sweet DH put an in-ground pool in the back yard late last year just for me and my stress...... It has changed my life.... Tomorrow I will laugh underwater but no tears here........... Blessings to you and boundaries, I have never read it! I need to go and read some of the post I have missed here while I have been gone.... I feel that I have missed something important!

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  12. You know what's fun for venting some rage? Go buy some cheapo glass stuff at the dollar store, then put it in a sack or sock and in your driveway smash the glass with a hammer. That shattering is very therapeutic!

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  13. Girl, didn’t you know sound waves carry under water also? Those faces of surprise when you popped your head out must’ve been hilarious. Glad you could laugh through your pain

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  14. I am certainly going to have to give screaming under water a try, and soon! God bless and hang in there!

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  15. What a humorous way to tell us how much pain you're in. I'm sorry you are feeling like this, I feel that way so often, I know exactly how you feel. I went driving in the corn fields a few miles from my house, last week, and screamed as best I could, trying to release the anger in a place where I thought no one would hear... but even there I couldn't scream. It's so hard to express anger or sadness... so I admire that you are able to scream, and also laugh about it.

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  16. Glad you had a moment of laugh. Glad that you can laugh in all your pain. Big hug. xx

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  17. Thank you for sharing.
    Thank you for visiting my blog. You saw my daughter's custom designed vans which she is so proud of {her daddy spoils her}!
    I am not sure how you found me but I consider it a Tender Mercy of the Lord's. Your blog is so uplifting.
    I am starting a private blog which I would love to invite you to. I am the Real Me on my blog but there are real parts of life that I would like to keep my children shielded from if I can, and I need to write about them. If I find your email here I will invite you. If I don't and you want an invite mine is vjj@entegra.net.

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  18. Glad there was a time of laughter for you, praying there will be many more.

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  19. Been dealing with a migraine since yesterday, but appreciate all your responses thanks!

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  20. JBR, hope you will be better soon. Keep you in my thoughts.

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  21. oh, i love the laughing underwater... hugs, you're in my thoughts!

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  22. Hi JBR:
    Here are some hugs back to you (((( JBR )))))!
    I hope your migraine clears up really soon.
    Take care of yourself!

    Glad you could have some fun swimming.
    I haven't been swimming in years, I"ll have to try it again when I can get on vacation somewhere. (Probably will be more years)
    Bye, Bunni

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  23. I'm sorry you've been feeling so drained. I had one of those emotional waves myself but in my bedroom, not a pool. I wish you comfort and peace from this raging. Keep on building those boundaries, they will set you free!

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  24. stuck-in-the-middleJune 15, 2009

    Hugs to you JBR.

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  25. Screaming and crying into a pillow works. I spent my childhood doing both into pillows - that's how I know it works - no one knew.

    For me, however, I'm done with the pillow routine. If I need to scream, I tend to do it in my car and if I need to cry, I do it anywhere I please.

    Love and Prayers for you,
    PG

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  26. Hi JBR, sorry to hear about your rough week, I've been praying for you. Love this post, too. Wonderful to see your humor showing through, and you know, I would have thought water was soundproof too. Wish I could have seen the people's expressions, must have been priceless. Keep up the swimming too, it's an awesome workout.

    God bless :)

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  27. Came to your blog via another site. I must say you certainly have lots to say from the heart. I'm sure not always pleasant. All the best.

    David

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  28. Hope you're feeling better all around.

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  29. boogie boarding has also been a great pasttime of ours for de stressing and screaming at the top of our lungs ;)

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  30. AH thanks for the tip about not screaming under water...it had sounded good to me until you told me that the rage breaks the surface of the water...I pray this next week is an easier one for you

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  31. I am glad to hear that you had managed to find some diversion in my life, That should be the way so long you can tackle this issue.

    Are you serious that you can scream underwater? I can't swim, also I have no idea at all.

    Have a blessed day

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  32. Hey all, thanks once again for your comments. Sorry, have not been posting much these past couple of days, but I have been out of it. Still have a bit of a headache, but this soon will pass! Thanks again. Blessings!

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  33. I'm so jealous. I need a time out in the pool. Anyone have a pool?

    Sheryl

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  34. You know the next time I am in a pool I am going to try screaming underwater, I will probably choke and drown..Just kidding. Sorry to hear this week has been stressful but at least you got a little humor when you could laugh under water out of it.

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  35. Tabs and Sheryl thank you!!

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