"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

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me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Thursday, August 20, 2009

KLINGONS


Love the title. First comes to mind was Star Trek’s Klingons. Ugly creatures they are.

Co-dependency (Cling-on) is an ugly creature as well. With the Star Trek series/movies, the Klingon’s were I believe once enemies and wanted to destroy the Enterprise. Just like co-dependency is, wants to destroy the individual(s).

The passage below, shines a light on just what happens to the Cling-on and Clingee in this case when the two meet. I know this toooooo well.!!!

I hope this blesses and encourages some of you:

“We have all known “cling-on”, people who cling to anyone who seems to care for them. Generally, they have been deprived of understanding, love, and respect. The “clingee” ends up feeling suffocated and pulls away, which confirms the cling’on’s original insecurity. New and loving relationships in themselves don’t make up for our past negative relationships. Recovery from childhood deprivations is a process that must also include working through past issues. Otherwise, our new relationships will follow the same destructive patterns as those in the past.”
(The Recovery Bible)

23 comments:

  1. the walking manAugust 20, 2009

    Recovery from childhood deprivations is a process that must also include working through past issues. Otherwise, our new relationships will follow the same destructive patterns as those in the past.”

    Nothing to add to that kiddo.

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  2. DeniseAugust 20, 2009

    Wow, so powerful, and true my friend. I love you.

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  3. stuck-in-the-middleAugust 20, 2009

    This is cute JBR!

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  4. LindaAugust 20, 2009

    The *Cling On* can be kinda cute in his own sort of way. lol

    I will have to work on this one. :)

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  5. AnonymousAugust 20, 2009

    I've had a few of these in my past. It's harder when your in recovery you tend to cling on to others for support more than you should.

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  6. PaulaAugust 20, 2009

    Klingon... nice label for the ol' codependency. Much more fashionable tough :-))

    Can relate far too much for my liking.

    Thanks so much for the share, reminded me where I come from and where for sure I dont want to return too.
    Love xxx

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  7. UnknownAugust 20, 2009

    I never thought about why Startrek called them Klingons, huh...

    I never thought of myself as clingy physically or emotionally... thinking back -- in some relationships.

    Sometimes with my daughter. See, you got me thinking.

    :) Sue

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  8. dark wingsAugust 20, 2009

    A very good post, much food for thought
    Btw, I'm a trekky fan..(love the pic)
    Hugs..Roan.

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  9. steveroniAugust 20, 2009

    Wow! Have you ever got ME thinking. Get real. Yeah! Thanks.

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  10. Dee DeeAugust 20, 2009

    Powerful message on codependency. Ican relate.

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  11. AnonymousAugust 20, 2009

    I'm definitely not a cling-on - there is no one to cling to. Interesting, tho that there are so many people I know who cling on to me!

    I have to admit that I allow them to. I'm working on it!

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  12. LauraAugust 20, 2009

    I agree, relationship problems can become a pattern due to not working out past abuse issues.

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  13. Wait. What?August 20, 2009

    This is a marvelous post and I totally agree!!!
    Also like the star trek reference in it!

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  14. RCUBEsAugust 20, 2009

    It helps to recognize that that kind of relationship is not healthy at all. Great post.

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  15. AndreaAugust 20, 2009

    Thanks for sharing.
    Blessings, andrea

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  16. RonAugust 20, 2009

    Interesting concept with the Klingon. Great post.

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  17. TanaAugust 20, 2009

    That was great. I've seen the Klingon's in real life. They're not pretty either.

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  18. UnknownAugust 20, 2009

    I never really thought of it that way!! :o)

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  19. Heart2HeartAugust 20, 2009

    Oh I think we all have had that wonderful opportunity of being either a cling on, a clingee, or both. Me included. It is true unless you work pass those things will hold you captive, you will carry those same things into each and every relationship you have.

    Love and Hugs ~ Kat

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  20. DonettaAugust 20, 2009

    A child human need first to be able to be dependent (*safe= I can trust and depend on...) then, able to be independent (Yes I am able... I can do it *mission) and the gain of inter-dependence (we all offer us and accomplish together what we could never do alone. *affiliation) is the goal

    Only if those other first steps occur can one become free of co-dependence.

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  21. RikkijAugust 20, 2009

    maybe you can cling-off, kind of like clap on-clap off.a real problem when someone so in need pushes away by that very need. ~rick

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  22. Ms Hen'sAugust 20, 2009

    Perfectly stated.

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  23. Lisa H.August 21, 2009

    Hi JBR :) Interesting choice of direction to pursue. Doesn't it piss you off the way that book is able to peg our behaviors? Guess we're not as unique as we'd like to think! How have you been otherwise?

    My latest stuff is posted on my lj site.

    Blessings, dear one!

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