Most of my memories of being sexually abused have been with me through out my life. Since t. and realizing the abuse has played a big part of my relationship problem I have been able to recall a bit more vividly of my surroundings while the abuse was going on, as oppose to the events “just happening.”
“Memories arise under many different circumstances. Three factors are usually present when survivors recall abuse that they have previously blocked out: distance from the original abuse, a life event that leads to the letting down of defenses, and an external situation that restimulates the memory. Sometimes women remember abuse when there is sufficient safety for the memories and feelings to emerge-for example, when they’re finally in a relationship that feels safe or when they move out of their parents’ home.
Other times, difficult or painful events may precede remembering. You may experience a loss, such as divorce, retirement, menopause, or the death of a loved one and may feel as though everything in your life is unraveling. Medical treatment-a trip to the dentist, a gynecological exam, surgery, anesthesia, or other invasive medical procedures-can also jar loose buried feelings and images. A contemporary event that resembles the original abuse can sometimes trigger memories." (Courage to Heal)
In sharing this book I want to encourage all, that there is "hope.” I look forward to my freedom in this area of my life and other areas that I am working on. May take some time, but if there is hope, then I am for it!!
Please also take the time to vote (upper left hand corner of my blog) if you want me to continue with sharing about this book on my blog. Sure you can choose not to read it if it is just too triggering, but I would really like to know what the majority thinks and I will go from there. As I really do not want to hurt anyone! But, at the same time, if this is beneficial for you all to share, then I will continue.
Thank you!!
Everything happens for a reason. If by doing this, many are encouraged, I pray that the Lord will give you the discernment whether you need to continue or not. But I just voted! "Yes" sister...Your courage stirs our own!
ReplyDeleteJBR- I always notice a lot of positive comments when you do so why stop? You go Girl! ~rick
ReplyDeleteYou Rock JBR!
ReplyDeleteContinue on sweetie, God is doing a great work in you, and through you.
ReplyDeleteYou are not alone! My memories got so bad it interfered with my schoolwork to the point I was going to be expelled due to poor academic performance.
ReplyDeleteJust remember the emergency stage does not last forever. If they get to bad try and call your counselor!
I voted to keep sharing the book. I don't have a lot of time to read and I've been burning up hearing about it all over the internet and knowing I would be wasting my money by buying it and not having time to read.
ReplyDeleteGod has given you a calling. Thank you for sharing the book.
ReplyDeleteI've read two books about this same subject recommended by my t. I'm very interested in your take on this.
ReplyDeleteJBR, you blog what you need and want to write. it s up to me if I like to show up. It is your safe corner int his world. SAFE and yours. I am glad you share and I am glad to have found you. Looks like I will be crossing the pond in January. If it is ok for you I would love to meet you. Hugs
ReplyDeleteReading and sharing is part of your healing and recovery. Keep it up. God Bless.
ReplyDeleteHi,
ReplyDeleteYou are the inspiration for your blog and your life.
You and noone else.
Congratulations and good luck.
Love,
Herrad
ps Keep believing in yourself.
Keep at it JBR!
ReplyDeleteI like it when you share your heart. but that's just me. Sarah
ReplyDeleteYou give what you have to give to keep moving forward. This is your home and you should act in it the way that makes you feel right.
ReplyDeleteI've missed a few weeks of your blog so I'm catching up.
ReplyDeleteJBR....I am right be side you girl! I couldn't have said everything you said in your post any better myself. By you going through this book and sharing it with us on your blog is helpful to me. Hang in there sweet one!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this book with us JBR! I voted. It's a nice addition to our healing and when people describe books, I learn what's worth buying as there are a lot of self-help books out there. There is much, both in memory and emotion that I do not recall. I have mixed feelings about the day when more starts to unlock. Take care! <3
ReplyDeleteI'm not a regular visitor. But when I do come I am able to gain some information and be able to apply to my own life. Continue to do what you feel led to.
ReplyDeleteKeep sharing the book. How are you handling sharing?
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