"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Monday, August 09, 2010

HEALTHY SEXUALITY


The ministering of the Holy Spirit continues to heal me in this sensitive deep area which produces a lot of fear and shame due to past sexual abuse. Lord continue to help me more and more to let go and trust You here in order for You to do Your mighty work of healing.

Many areas of our life need healing.

One important part of our life is our sexuality. Our feelings and beliefs about our sexuality, our ability to nurture, cherish, and enjoy our sexuality, our ability to respect ourselves sexually, our ability to let go of sexual shame and confusion, may all be impaired or confused by our codependency.

Our sexual energy may be blocked. Or for some of us, sex may be the only way we learned to connect with people. Our sexuality may not be connected to the rest of us; sex may not be connected to love - for others or ourselves.

Some of us were sexually abused as children. Some of us may have gotten involved in sexuality addictive behaviors - compulsive sexual behaviors that got out of control and produced shame.

Some of us may have gotten involved in sexual codependency: not paying attention to what we wanted, or didn't want, sexually; allowing ourselves to get involved sexually because it was what the other person wanted; shutting off our sexuality along with our other feelings; denying ourselves healthy enjoyment of ourselves as sexual beings.

Our sexuality is a part of ourselves that deserves healing attention and energy. It is a part of us that we can allow to become connected to the whole of us; it is a part of us that we can stop being ashamed of.

It is okay and healthy to allow our sexual energy to open up and become healed. It is connected to our creativity and to our heart. We do not have to allow our sexual energy to control our relationships or us. We can establish and maintain healthy, appropriate boundaries around our sexuality. We can discover what that means in our life.

We can enjoy the gift of being human beings who have been given the gift of sexual energy, without abusing or discounting that gift.

Today, I will begin to integrate my sexuality into the rest of my personality. God, help me let go of my fears and shame around my sexuality. Show me the issues I need to face concerning my sexuality. Help me open myself to healing in that area of my life.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.

12 comments:

  1. Thanks for posting this JBR. It's a great one - so great I re-blogged it.

    Keep blogging. I read all the time. You are a fantastic mirror of God's glory.

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  2. JBR informative. I see that healthy sexuality involves recognizing that we are all sexual beings, and celebrating the ways that our sexuality benefits us physically, emotionally, and spiritually in the context of marriage. Knowing some have difficulty because of abuse. Recognizing that God can heal just the same. God Bless.

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  3. i agree. our sexuality is a good thing, when kept in the right confines...marital relationships need that physical intimacy as much as it needs other nourishment...such as communication, affection...

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  4. (((JBR))) Here listening...

    Wishing you well,
    NOS

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  5. Thanks for stopping by again. Truly appreciate it. Yes, JBR, it is a very sensitive issue and I am so grateful that the most of it I have overcome. The leftover is rather my complete astonishment how deep down I was damaged and rejecting. For so many years now it is different. Just some encouragement for the way.... ;-)

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  6. I agree our sexuality is part of our life. You said it right!
    kim

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  7. Praying for healing

    Blessings,
    Lyn

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  8. Amen...He can heal all things...

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  9. On your way, your on your way, and its worth it...hold your ground, you deserve the very best right now, today, breath in and enjoy what goodness surrounds you. We are on your side and rooting for you....

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  10. Good post, braveheart!
    -Jennifer

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  11. Praying for you always.

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  12. This is SO good, something I really needed to read right now as I rediscover my sexual identity in a positive way. Thanks JBR ((hugs)) x

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