"Yet a time is coming
and has now come when the true worshipers will worship
the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the
kind of worshipers the Father seeks." - John 4:23

My Heavenly Daddy is healing
me from the inside out.

Transparency is Real.
Many times painful.

Daddy let me be secure in You only!

Wednesday, January 19, 2011


I have found out, being a child of sexual abuse myself, that it can brainwash those of us into believing we are unlovable. Back when I was repeatedly sexually abused in the 1960's by my older brother, there were no resources or places to go to. Not like today where there are a ton of books, counseling centers and stricter laws enforced. But that still is not enough. Childhood sexual abuse continues. Ironically enough even more rampant. Unfortunately.

To this day I know there are a lot of us who still have a problem with God and why He did not stop the abuse. The anger! Very understandable. I know this can be very hard to get past. I hear you.

Still, I wanted to share a few Christian books that deal with childhood sexual abuse. Their forwards seem interesting enough. The hope. No denial. Talks about God's unconditional love. How running into the arms of Jesus helps in receiving emotional support and security:

Listen to the Cry of the Child: The Deafening Silence of Sexual Abuse
By Barbara J. Hansen

The pain of sexual abuse is often concealed by those who carry its scars. Chained as prisoners of the past, many hide in secrecy afraid of the consequences of revealing the horrors of childhood experiences. On the surface they may seem carefree and happy, yet inside a festering wound exists. The only road to freedom from this prison requires confronting the past and revealing its pain in the light. Barbara Hansen knows the anguish of sexual abuse, pornography, infertility, postpartum depression, and marriage betrayal. once trapped in her own prison of anger and bitterness, she was finally set free through the grace of God. Her story provides hope for the hopeless and healing for those willing to face the past and be released.

In the Tears of a Wounded Child
By Coco Mullins

Enter into the true-life story of a young girl's struggle to battle one of man's darkest sides: child abuse. See how God provides for her and guards her spirit as she goes through tremendous tragedy and the insanity of what she knows as childhood. Coco has no idea of His presence in the basement while she tries to hang on tightly to her own little corner. Walk with her through her journey as she struggles with bitterness, denial, and the big question: "Why?" Find where God takes her in this story as He bottles all of her tears, only to replace them with true joy and happiness of His endless love. Go with her as she shares those events and explains some of life's hardest questions. Who knows, maybe you or someone you know will have their tears turned into joy.

The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse
By Dan Allender

Almost everyone knows a victim of childhood sexual abuse; it has no religious or social boundaries. And sexual abuse is probably the most ''soul-deadening'' trauma there is. For adult victims, here is a way out of the rage, fear, and confusion. For their spouses, families, friends, and counselors, here are specific ways you can help the healing process. With Christ, there is indeed hope for the wounded heart. With a foreword by Dr. Larry Crabb. 255 pages, softcover from NavPress.


  1. Overwhelmingly grateful for
    the flood of resources that
    keep coming as the light
    continues to overshadow the
    darkness in on this planet.
    Thank you Lord for pouring out
    balm and healing on those dark
    and secret shame wounds.
    Heal, heal, heal, heal, heal......
    Thankful for the healing
    happening in and for you, dear one.
    Ashes to beauty.

  2. Childhood sexual abuse has affected me all my life. I have difficulty accepting God the father as loving, because I was abused by my step dad and my father left me when I was one. I'm glad God has been patient with me. You are so right, when my abuse happened there was not resources available to help. I am glad this has improved. Thank you for sharing some books. I like to read to see how I can improve my healing as it has been a very painfully slow process.

  3. Those books sound very good. I just wanted to share with you that what you said is something my husband has a problem with. (He was never abused) He believes that if there is a God why do young children have to suffer. He has a hard time crossing over into truly trusting in God.

  4. JBR good reviews. Especially the last book The Wounded Heart. I've seen that one before. Been in the bookstores for many a year. The forwards are very helpful in seeing exactly what one will be dealing with when reading. Informative post and hope that these books do help others in need. Great going. God Bless.


  6. I hope alo read this post will consider reading these books

  7. Thanks for the books. I will have to check them out. Interestingly enough I had a conversation with my t in regards to your first paragraph. Nobody got involved and there was no where to go even if I had been inclined to. I struggle a lot with anger and God. Thanks for understanding.

  8. I too am grateful that we talk about it now. It feels cared about and understood. Hugs, JBR.

  9. Ahhhhhhhhhh,, the AWESOME Arms of Jesus!!!!
    No better place...Blessings and Love from Our Father God above~~~
    Hugs Dena

  10. It is difficult to understand the suffering of a child. It is just plain difficult

  11. hi,
    thank you for your the good work and especially the book list.
    i think you should definitely add this book. i saw the author speak on Dr Drew.