I struggle with receiving compliments, gifts, kind words, etc. Below is a very difficult exercise the author poses.
The part that reads "just stand there and take it." To know that I am worthy of compliments. Oh that is so hard for me. Though I am improving.
Here is an exercise.
Today let someone give to you. Let someone do something nice for you. Let someone give you a compliment or tell you something good about yourself. Let someone help you.
Then, stand there and take it. Take it in. Feel it. Know that you are worthy and deserving. Do not apologize. Do not say, "You shouldn't have." Do you feel guilty, afraid, ashamed, and panicky? Do not immediately try to give something back.
Just say, "Thank you."
Today, I will let myself receive one thing from someone else, and I will let myself be comfortable with that.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
I so understand this..sometimes it feels like this big road block and it just doesn't want to move out of the way...I am working on this area of receiving from others as well...we will get there my friend! XX
ReplyDeleteI understand as well JBR, it it is a humbling thing to learn in a way.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing so very well, I am proud of you.
Happy Valentine's day! I wish you much love in the coming year!
I needed to read this, I struggle with the same. I will say Thank You!
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Haha!! I too strugle with this! It is easy to give and hard to receive. What I have learned....when someone gives me a compliment I direct it to God for ALL things come from Him and all credit goes to Him. He will one day give us the biggest, best compliment ever and that is when we come into His presence and He says, "Well done!!! Good and faithfull servant!!"
ReplyDeleteHeal well dear sister for in the healing He is re-shaping you into a beautiful vessel of His design and I see that this vessel is beautiful beyond measure. Give all glory to Him and He will shine brightly through you.
God bless,
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That is awesome...so simple yet so hard to do.
ReplyDeleteLove and hugs to you sweety.
ReplyDeleteGod's blessings to you ((((JBR))))!!! Jesus loves you!!! Stand strong!!! He is our strength!!!
ReplyDeleteLove in Christ Jesus,
Lon
Listening and understanding...
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I still feel awkward receiving compliments, JBR, so I can understand where you are coming from. I have learned to say thank you instead of cutting myself down in return so that's progress I guess :)
ReplyDeleteHappy Valentine's Day and may God bless you, my friend!
Thats one of the hardest things for me too
ReplyDeleteI just dont know what to do with myself in situations like this
I want to hide
This exercise you and I will do together. JBR, you are really nice and that is exactly why you have so many followers here. Feel it.
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