Well, my t. and I have sort of an inside joke with the phrase "Bad." As in "Baaaaaaaaaaaad."
Any time something is frustrating and seems like it will not go away, it then becomes a "Bad _______ Thing Bad." That is about the only way I can describe it.
For me, I still have the tendency to "should" things in my life. Which then becomes my "Bad Should Thing Bad."
My t. explaining that usually when I say "should" I am really saying, "I don't want to" or "I am not happy where I am at" or "Not measuring up."
Which in essence shows me that I still expect myself to be at a certain place in my journey. Then putting pressure on myself. Then having guilt, condemnation and shame tag along when "I" do not meet "my" expectations.
Even when I find myself "shoulding" because I Do Not Want To Do Something, there is a element of failure and shame attached.
Are you confused yet? Well I am. And I am the one going through it!
So, if I stop putting demands on my "shoulds" in life and realize that God is perfectly fine with where I am at, the better off I will be.
Yes I am confused. ((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteI GOTCHA' JBR. I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. THE SHOULD'S OF LIFE CAN HAVE INSURMOUNTABLE RESTRICTIONS. I'M HAPPY YOU'RE FINDING THAT YOU'RE YOU AND WHERE YOU'RE AT IS OK. THAT PIC IS ADORABLE.
ReplyDeleteActually this made sense to me...lol. Whenever I say "should" it's usually because it's something I don't really want to do or feel forced to do in some way. The title did throw me though!
ReplyDeleteTherefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:34
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to be content right where you are but it is doable if you just keep reminding yourself. Let go and let God.
(((Hugs)))
No "shoulds" and no "ifs."
ReplyDeleteEliminate those words from your vocabulary.
Peace.
I actually understand this.
ReplyDeleteWe all ecperience that I believe, should be doing, but we dont or doing the other way around. We are not perfect, that is why we need God everday. And He is there to help us and we are on the right way:)
ReplyDeleteI think a lot of people have "should" dictating their lives. I know I do. In my case it is behaviour or thoughts I am supposed to do or think given to me by someone else and it is not positive. Just another step in the recovery journey. Blessings to you Just Be Real.
ReplyDeleteIt's confusing but I get it. I think many people say "should" as it's something that others might want them to do but they're not comfortable with it themselves. Thanks for sharing.
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